Post # 1
I want to consult you guys on what you think about moms not opening shower gifts. The mom to be has requested that she not have to open gifts infront of the group. I want to come up with some work around. Anyone have thoughts?
The mom to be would like a causal affair, we are doing a BBQ and couples are invited. Mom is also very environmentally friendly and the shower will be very Eco conscious.
Post # 3
@Letsparty: Personally, I don’t think it’s very nice. If people are bringing you gifts, the least you can do is open them and look happy about it. The point of a SHOWER is to “shower you with gifts”. If you don’t want to do your part, you don’t get to have a shower.
That said, apparently “display showers” are a thing now. People bring unwrapped gifts with just a bow on them and you set them up so everyone can see. I guess that’s a work around for you.
Post # 4
I’d love this. There’s nothing more boring than watching someone open presents, it’s often awkward and fake, and soooo uncomfortable for the opener!
Post # 5
I guess it would cut down on time…. but that’s so rude. I guess you or her mom could open the gifts in front of everyone?
Post # 6
I can understand why they don’t open presents at little kids birthday parties but haven’t heard of not opening gifts at a shower.
Post # 7
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I would never think to invite people to a shower (showers are generally to “shower” with gifts) and not open the gifts. A lot of the fun for everyone is seeing the cute stuff and the mom’s reaction. I’d think it was kind of rude not to open them.
Post # 8
I don’t see what’s wrong with eating, celebrating, and then opening presents in private and thanking the giver.
Post # 9
I have a friend who was very uncomfortable opening gifts in front of everyone. The slight comprimise was that the host asked everyone to wrap their gift in clear paper, so people (including the mother-to-be) could see the gifts, but she didn’t have to be the center of attention for the time it would take to open every present.
Post # 10
If its a smallerish shower then I think opening gifts is the best thing to do. I’m talking less then 10 gifts though. I like the idea “display showers” as PP’s said just popping a bow on something, not wrapping it and bringing it.
When it comes time for my bridal/baby showers. I probably will not be opening gifts, the last thing I want to do is sit there opening gifts infront of people for an hour (My bridal shower “basic” list is 47 ladies – I wouldn’t want to sit thourgh that as a guest!)
The guests will get a proper individual thank you in a card after the shower (at least in my case!)
Post # 11
So boring to sit through all the wrapping paper and squeals of (sometimes obviously fake) delight. However, I think ones opinion on opening presents in public depends a lot on your upbringing. I hate it, Fiance loves it. In my family, we would only watch gift opening during birthdays, while Christmas was a happy tumult of present. In FI’s family we have to take turns opening gifts. He gets frustrated with my family because “the good gifts doesn’t get the attention they deserve” & I get frustrated with his family because it takes a bloody EON to work through all the presents and I feel like a complete fake when everyone is looking at me and I have to go “Wow, I’m so in love with these coasters!”.
Post # 12
Personally I wouldn’t have a shower if I didn’t want to open gifts in front of an audience.
Post # 13
I think this is fine. The easiest way to go about this is to just have a big gift table that everyone can deposit the gifts on and then have a big party rather than the normal shower with the set schedule of eat, games, cake and gifts. This is easier when it’s a huge gathering. The other option is to only have unwrapped gifts, which really works with the mom’s eco-friendly theme. However, this depends on your guests because I think some guests may feel embarrassed if their gifts are less extravagant than other people’s.
By the way, if she doesn’t end up opening gifts and ooh-ing and aah-ing in front of people, then she should absolutely send out Thank You cards ASAP so people feel appreciated. We’ve been to showers/parties where gifts were not opened and we don’t receive a Thank You card or any kind of acknowledgement (even a text/email). We just want to know it was received (i.e. didn’t get lost) and, hopefully, that it was a nice gift.
Post # 14
thank you for your comments
were trying to make mom and dad to be the most comfortable we can, since she specifically asked that she didn’t have to do this. Thank you 🙂
Post # 15
I think the mom needs to get over it.
Post # 16
@lilbluebird: wouldnt people be more embararassed opening gifts with an audience and the mom announcing this gift is from Jill and its a smaller gift? But we will defiantly help mom in making a list of gifts whichever way we go to do thank you cards.