Post # 1
I’m not pregnant but I wanted to ask the pregnant ladies their oppinion since I don’t have any kids. I’ve never thrown a baby shower for anyone and I’m planning one now (with other people). The person who I’m throwing the shower to happens to be my sister from another state. We initially thought about a welcome party since it is not very safe for very pregnant women to fly. Her doctor approved so wish granted! You will have your baby shower. I was so excited at first and I planned to throw the most beautiful shower ever since it will be the first baby in our family. Turns out, this has turned into a nightmare. She’s asked what the theme is, where it will be held at etc. I feel like I’m being ordered around because when I tell her the plans she says she would like something else. She would say, “However you guys prefer but I think ….” This morning the orders were more direct, less polite and way more rude than the previous subtle comments. I work full time and go to school full time as well. My sisters have a similar schedule but we are doing all we can to pull this together with half of the invites being people we don’t even know. I’ve finally had it and had an ugly argument with the other hosts. We finally decided to hire a planner so he/she could take the heat. My question is…. Should you have any say at all in a shower that someone else is throwing for you?
Post # 3
I didn’t answer the poll because the option I wanted was not there. I think that it depends on who is throwing the shower and also how you interact with that person. If it was say my boss throwing it, I would expect to have no input at all. If it was my family, I would feel a little freer to express my opinions, however I would not be rude about it and would be very grateful. It also would depend on whether they asked for my opinion or not.
I do think that everyone is entitled to a certain level of comfort, meaning that if certain foods are not well tolerated or certain themes/games would make the person uneasy, then they should be able to say no to those types of things. Other than basics I would say most people shouldn’t really be involved unless asked.
Post # 4
@amoret11: I’ve planned a baby shower. I asked my BFF to write a list of what type of decor, food, and games she wanted and hosted the shower of her dreams. She really loved it. I’m a Type A personality and so when I leave it up to other people I get disappointed and emotionally upset.
I’m currenlty preggo and I’m planning my own shower. Call me tacky, but I KNOW what I want in terms of decor, food, and games. My aunt has offered to host it but she is taking my advice. I’m buying a lot of the decor and the professional cake.
Post # 5
i really like to be in control. i have seen far too many events happen in a way that the person who it is for, never ever wanted. I think i have always had an idea of what kind of shower i would like, and honestly why shouldnt i get the shower i want. Yes i understand that you are hosting, but remember it is for your sister, HER and HER baby. It shouldnt be about what you want, or what the other hosts want. Also please remember that your sister is very hormonal at the moment. Things that dont seem to be big issues are. perhaps shes now being very forceful with what she wants because she feels as thogh shes not being heard?? And honestly at the end of the day if she helps with the planning of it who is it going to hurt???
Not trying to be rude, just helpful 🙂 hope you are all able to get through the rest of the planning with out too much trouble, Goodluck!
Post # 6
If somebody is nice enough to throw you a baby shower, you should butt out of the planning completely unless the host specifically asks for your input.
Post # 7
I really think that the person who the shower is in honor of should have some say. I think whoever throwing the shower should ask for an invite list and ask for input on themes and maybe even games.
Post # 8
That stinks that you guys have had to resort to hiring a planner…
I’ve only hosted 1 baby shower… it was a surprise, for a new friend who was having her third baby girl… She didn’t have any input because she didn’t know about it… but I did ask her mom for a few tips on food and such…
I’d at least listen to your sister’s requests, and try to forgive her for being rude… Obviously you love her enough to throw her a shower… she’s probably a real sweetheart who is just a hormonal mess right now… esp if it’s her first baby shower – she probably has high expections from pinterest overload! lol!
Good luck hun!
Post # 9
Thanks for the input. I do see that it is a big deal for a lot of the preggo ladies. When I had my bridal shower I didn’t even ask if I was goign to have one or not (I had several which was really nice). However, I wasn’t as hormonal as my sister is. I do get a lot of the points but there are some other things that I don’t want to do like doing a money tree or asking for gift cards and I feel like she doesn’t budge even though I’ve offered to ship the gifts myself If worst comes to worst. Anyways, I think one of my sisters (Bravely enough!) talked to her and she started being more polite and less demanding. I just want to say that I’ve asked every step of the way I just felt that I was being ordered to spend more than I could and to do things that I felt were not appropriate but anyways, it’s coming along. Thank you guys for the input now I know my sister is not a momzilla LOL!