Baby Shower Thank-You Card Etiquette?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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3011 posts
Sugar bee

I’m not sure there’s a rule but it sounds like you’re probably not going to get one. It’s hard to explain why it is bothersome, but it totally is. I went to a wedding 18m ago and forgot my checkbook. Before I even had a chance to ask for the bride’s address she emailed me wondering if she had misplaced my gift/card. I sent it right away and never got any sort of acknowledgement besides the cashed check. Yuck. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  mamadingdong.
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ugh. I gave my bff like 250$ of crystal off her registry… No note. I was annoyed/shocked. I had to double check with her that it even arrived. Then recently  I hear her talking about her how her husband was supposed to order the photo cards but hasnt bla bla bla… And I realize… It’s been 14 months and they haven’t sent one thank you card for their wedding!!! This was a black tie fancy affair that people flew in for, from across the country and world!! My jaw dropped but I bit my tongue. I was shocked. 

Point is, we can’t hold people to the sane standards we hold ourselves. Your friend was raised with out proper etiquette being drilled into her head. My friend too I guess. I’ve been writing prompt and cheery thank you notes for gifts since I was a child (thanks to threats from my mom). But now I’m glad because I can behave like a lady and not an ingrate. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

mamadingdong:  that is so exceedingly rude, awkward and embaressing! Yeesh! “Excuse me… But wheres your present?” Sending a gift soon after the wedding is no issue at all. Enforcing a self imposed gift requirement through the guise of “woops did I lose it?”… sigh.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I gave thank you cards the day of my shower. I think it’s rude If she doesn’t send a card.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

daisy92:  I had 2 showers, one for my side and one for FI side. I had thank-yous out in two weeks. I think a couple months is acceptable.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

daisy92:  We never received thank you notes from the two weddings we attended and sent gifts for…I think in this day and age it’s not just not understood what a nice thought it is to write one out.  Many people think it’s just not necessary.  When we had our baby shower, I told my husband, he had to write all of his family’s, but I would write our friends and family’s ones.  It was a pain and a lot of letters by myself, but he never wrote his.  He just didn’t understand why he had too, and I think that’s the majority of people nowadays.

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