Baby Shower tradition/ customs

posted 4 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Click what applies
    Yes, I've been to co-ed showers : (23 votes)
    34 %
    No, never co-ed : (14 votes)
    21 %
    50/50 : (4 votes)
    6 %
    Yes, hubby signs card : (14 votes)
    21 %
    No, Hubby does not sign card : (13 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    43300 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Atalanta:  I think it’s more than just who does the child raising that is involved.

    IMO it is the rare man who wants to sit and open baby gifts, ooing and awing, and passing them around- or attend such an event as a guest.

    Post # 4
    7079 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Atalanta:  My family only does co-ed parties now, but I still really like women only showers. 

    Post # 6
    43300 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Atalanta:  The whole point of a shower, is to shower the honoree with gifts. The gift opening is what the shower is all about.

    Yes I enjoy the socializing, but I know my SO would not want to be part of the gift opening rituals.

    Post # 8
    6668 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I didn’t mind opening the gifts, in fact it is rather expected if there is a shower with gifts, that is the point of the shower to “shower” the person of honor with gifts.  I personally hate the games.  I know when my MOH hosted my baby shower for me, we had no games. It was just time to get together chat, and open the gifts.  And oh and ahh at the pictures,  My son came early so my shower was after he was born

    Post # 9
    3025 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Atalanta:  it’s a ritual. Maybe some have a jack & Jill shower, but this is simply the tradition. Perhaps when you have a baby you can request that your shower be co-ed. Sign his name or don’t- it really doesn’t matter. 

    Also, I’m cracking up at your spelling of diapers. Just can’t get that diA- thing down 🙂

    Post # 11
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    The co-ed baby showers I’ve been to have been hosted At my job or for co-workers. The other was a baby shower after the baby was born, due to it being an adoption they didn’t want to hold it before they actually got the baby. 

    I sign the card from The Spottts if we both know the woman otherwise I just sign my name. 

    Post # 12
    2740 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’ve never been to a coed baby shower.  They are women-only in my circle, and they are all pretty much the same: eat finger foods, play silly games, and watch the honoree open her gifts.  Nothing any man would enjoy. 

    Do I enjoy it?  Yes, if it’s a smaller group (watching the mom open tons and tons of gifts gets tedious, though it’s fun to sqee over cute baby things for a short while).  I even like the games as long as they aren’t gross (melted chocolate smeared in diapers…) or awkward (guess the mom’s belly circumference…).  My husband would not enjoy any of this.

    I’ve read on the bee about coed showers that are more like regular BBQs with heartier food, booze, maybe swimming or lawn games, etc. where the baby stuff is kind of ancillary, but never known anyone to do that IRL.

    My husband doesn’t usually sign the card unless it’s someone he knows.

    Post # 13
    9092 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’ve been to one kind of.  My coworkers tend to have BBQ’s hosted around at people’s houses a few times a summer.  If there’s an event relatively close, we usually celebrate it, just coincidentally.  So, one landed right before one of our coworker’s wives was having a baby, so we turned it into a diaper shower for them.

    Post # 14
    426 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    The only baby showers I have been to have been co-ed.  My family usually has awesome food at functions, so the guys usually don’t mind going 🙂

    Post # 15
    2690 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It depends.  I’ve been to mainly co-ed showers though.  My first 2 showers were both co-ed and the shower for our first child, dh even sat next to me and helped open gifts.  My 3rd shower was much smaller and only females with dh and his cousin hanging in the house. Men actually enjoy going to baby showers here.  Dh was invited to one a few weeks ago and was going to go but since it was last minute (he got invited the same day), he didn’t have a gift and didn’t want to go empty handed.

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