- 7 years ago
Someone in FI’s family is having a baby and I have now been invited to two showers for them in the coming months. This is the first time that his family has actually invited me to any “girls only” activities (weird history, but basically they stayed close with his ex-gf and typically invited her and not me to things like this), so I am excited that they are finally including me.
His expecting family member lives OOT, about 6 hours away. The first shower is here, and is co-ed. FI and I will definitely be there. The second shower is in her town and is just the girls. I am not sure if I can attend the second shower, since it is on my brother’s birthday, and if I am not, then I will not worry about the gift etiquette. My question is, if I DO go to this second shower…am I supposed to buy a second gift? Should I split the money I would spend and get her two medium gifts for each, one large and one small gift for each, or just one gift overall? I feel like if I drive six hours up there for the shower (or more likely carpooling with some of his family who would also be driving), I would feel silly going all that way to show up empty-handed. What should I do?