Post # 1
Tomorrow some coworkers are hosting a baby shower for another coworker of mine. I was invited to it by email as were about 10 other people. I am not friends with this woman even though her position supports my position and we sit a few cubes away. However, I have never talked to her and she has never talked to me.
Anyways, for the shower tomorrow I was asked to bring a gift if possible and also food for a potluck lunch. Not only do I not want to do either of those things, but I dont want to go. I dont see the point in being at a shower for someone I do not know at all and have only spoken to regarding work. It seems contrived to me.
Would it be terrible of me not to go? I would never expect this woman to come to anything of mine even if she were invited. And if you think I should go, would it be totally wrong of me not to even bring in food? Sorry, I’m broke right now and need my money for other things!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s terrible at all. I would just say that you won’t be attending, but thanks for the invitation. You don’t even need to explain anything. I don’t think I’d want to go, either.
If it’s the kind of party where you had to send in an rsvp, though, and you already said yes then it’s trickier, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.
Post # 4
I don’t think you should have to go if you haven’t even talked to her. I would just tell them you have a lot of work to do or something, sorry you can’t make it.
Post # 5
I think it would be nice for you to go..but only if you want to. It’s the opportunity for you to get to know your coworkers..including the one you don’t interact with.
Post # 6
Ok I think it has been confirmed for me not to go. Thanks!
@swtTea: That would be nice, but I have been at this job, sitting just a few cubes away, for 16 months now and she never makes any effort and I have tried to make conversation with her several times….she just doesnt come off as very nice, so I dont really want to get to know her!