Baby sitting troubles!

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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1012 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@eecuadrado:  Will you be paying her? If you’re paying her I think it’s fair to ask her to be on-time, to come to your house (paid for those hours as well), etc. Though, never being able to take vacation seems a bit extreme.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@eecuadrado:  Oh yeah, that’s a long vacation. I would agree to X amount of days per year, and try to coordinate your vacations. That may work out! I hope it does 🙂

Post # 6
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3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hm, I think the vacation one may be a little unreasonable – couldn’t you find an alternate at that time if you had enough advance notice? – but as for being on time, no definitely not unreasonable. I think you’re handling it well enough, though, and if she’s mature enough to think it through and see if she can make it work without getting huffy then that’s great. She may say no, and that’s fine, then it leaves you able to interview and find other sitters that aren’t family. 

Post # 7
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Timeliness is important, but you need to get over your “no vacations” demand. Seriously, she has to stop enjoying time off because she has the honor of watching your kid? That’s crazy.

Post # 8
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree that the vacation thing is a bit harsh, but what are the standards for vacation time in home daycares in your area?  I think it is more likely that you plan your vacation around hers, rather than the other way around.

Post # 10
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7674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think expecting her to take vacation at the same time you do is unreasonable. I’d look into a daycare or a fill-in nanny for those situations.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

ETA: By the time I submitted this post, my questions had been answered. Carry on.

Post # 16
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544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@eecuadrado:  I understand this situation might be a little different because she’s family, but when I worked as a full-time nanny, I had all federal holidays off plus two weeks paid time off each year. I did have to make sure that my time off didn’t cause major problems for the family, I helped find backup care if needed and I was willing to take the time when they had planned to be away too, but it didn’t always work out that way and it was still ok.

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