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    CaliSun23      

    I can't believe I am actually going to say this but I am so IRRITATED that some mutual friends of my FI and me STOLE OUR BABY NAME! We just went to visit them 2 months ago and we got on the subject of names since they were due soon. They told us they had a name selected to which I replied that my FI and I have a name (it is a family name) that we both really like and plan on using when the time comes. Nothing is ever mentioned about it - they don't even say they like it. They call us last night to say the baby was born, we ask the baby's name, lo and behold, it is the name I told them we wanted to use. I know I don't "own" the name nor do I expect her to ask permission to use it but come on!! They had no interest in the name until I said FI and I want to use it. What the hell!! Frustrating!!!!

    Does anyone else think this is ridiculous!!???

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i'd be upset too, that's not cool.

     
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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    I would be livid. But you should still use the name when your time comes for a baby. Just because you all are friends doesn't necessarily mean your kids will be best friends - so it won't necessarily mean there'll be two "Emily"s running around together...know what I mean? And then if they say anything to you for using their kid's name...well, they won't...because they already know they stole it from you!

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    Not to sound harsh (and I wish this hadn't happened), but this is why you keep the name to yourself until you have a baby. I don't think they did anything wrong - you gave them an idea, maybe they didn't think much of it at first, but then they decided they loved it more than their original choice. As you point out, you don't have a patent on it. There is absolutely no reason for them not to use it if they like it. You're not even pregnant yet, right?

    In future, I think it's fine for you to use the name even though they have already. or if not, there are hundreds of great names out there.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm sorry that happened.  But I don't think that just because they used it first, you would be weird to use it.  Even if you two are friends, it doesn't mean your kids would be too so you shouldn't worry about it too much!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    That's soooo wrong!  I mean, if they loved the name and needed to use it, they should of at least said so before the baby was born.  You're right, you don't own the name but that's what a friend should do.  My friends and I have all, at one point, discussed our future baby names in order to curb this kind of thing.  Its kinda funny because we've been like, "Omg, I love the name Mikayla... don't use it k" 

    I hope you don't feel like you can't use it too, you totally can someday. 

     
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    rainbow    January 1, 2011   Tampa

    OMG, I'd be so pissed! That's precisely why I won't tell anyone our baby names.

     
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    JsDragonfly    December 29, 2009  

    Oh my gosh I would be so irritated too.  I've had my heart set on a girl's name for forever...And I've pretty much come to the conclusion that I'm going to name her my picked out name no matter what...even if she has first cousins w/ the same name. lol

     
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    I am keeping all future baby names to myself but that just makes me so mad!!! Who does that to their friend??? Even the FI was a little disappointed. :(

     
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    Terrible. I'd use the names anyway- when are your kids going to see each other anyway? It's not like it's the same family...

     

     
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    Miss Burgundy    May 28, 2010   Southern California

    I think I would be complimented if my friend chose a baby name I'd picked out- it means that I have great taste! ;)

     

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