Baby's head flopped back when held w/o neck support… signs of being hurt?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
416 posts
Helper bee

Don’t worry new mom, he’s fine. Probably momentarily scared, but if something was really wrong you would know. 

When I witnessed my friend’s birth the docs were handling the baby like a mini pizza.

Post # 4
3009 posts
Sugar bee

@fuzzypeach:  I think that if you are truly concerned you should call the ped. They all have answering services and a doctor will call you back. Or go to the er. Not much the internet can tell you. 

Post # 5
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@fuzzypeach:  I agree with PP, call the doctor anyway or go to the ER. I don’t think you’ll be able to rest easy unless you know for sure your little guy is fine. I’m pretty sure it’s nothing though, he probably got a little scare out of it, that’s all, but I think your peace of mind is worth a trip to the doctor. Fingers crossed your baby is fine!

Post # 6
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@fuzzypeach:  I would guess that baby is okay, buuuut its always easier to call or bring them in to put yourself at ease.

Post # 7
1965 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Im sure he is just fine. My DD’s head was very floppy for a very long time and we had many incidents of her flipping her head back or people not supporting her neck properly and shes just fine.

If his head kind of flopped back ie not violently then there should be nothing to worry about. Think of what the poor litle things heads and necks go through when being born! 

If you are at all concerned just pop him down to the hospital, they will bump you to the front of the line and you will most likely be there less than an hour. 

He most likely let out a little cry because he was startled or infact he may have been able to sense that you were uneasy and it scared him a little. 


Post # 9
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

He may have been more scared that his mom was shouting and charging the woman who was holding him, rather than hurt…

Post # 10
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@fuzzypeach:  The first time my mom took me to the doctor (I was about a month old), the NURSE didn’t support my head and it hit the table pretty hard.  Mom still remembers that nurse when we see her. I’m sure baby will be fine but talk to your doctor to make sure.

Post # 11
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@toothfairy910:   +1

yeah. I get being mama bear, but reacting this way probably scared baby more than the head flip. Babies are really resilient, and I pretty sure all babies have a few incidents like this. Not that we shouldt avoid them, but obviously there would be a lot more of us with brain damage walking around if every flop did damage. This is kind of the early version of your kid falling, you just can’t expect it will never happen, they will fall, they will get hurt, they will be ok.


i hope you apologized to your friends for reacting that way in the moment. It sounds like she had good intentions, i would hate to think of her avoiding you or the baby because you yelled at her. But if you yelled at me like that over a simple mistake, I’d be like “woah,” and probably not offer to help or hold baby again lest I get yelled at.


Post # 12
6666 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m sure your baby is fine!

Post # 13
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Mrs.LemonDrop:  I agree. I had actually typed up much of what you said in your second paragraph but then couldn’t decide if I could say it without sounding snarky. If a friend started shouting and running at me, you can bet that I would NOT be helping them out again. Probably even if they apologized. Unfortunately it doesn’t seem like OP actually felt bad about doing that.

Post # 14
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@fuzzypeach:  He is most likely fine. He probably cried because you scared him by yelling and running over.

Post # 15
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

So I  know every baby developes differently, but this was my son doing Tummy Time at 2 months, 5 days. As you can see, there is NO reason to think that someone not supporting his head could do any harm. Yes, if someone picks him up while he was relaxed, his head might go backwards, but the typical baby should have more than enough muscle control at that age to support their own head once they recover from the initial pick-up.

if you have concerns about your baby’s neck muscles, you should contact your Dr. However, I think the concern about supporting an infant’s head is for the first few weeks, after that, you really don’t need to be quite as vigilent.


@Mrs.LemonDrop:  Agreed! One of the best parenting moments I ever witnessed is when my friend’s 2 year old son was running around and fell down. I went to get up to reach for him and she held me back and said “hold on”, then she calmly said to her son “you’re ok, aren’t you” and he looked at her, smiled, got up and started running again. Without a doubt, if I would have rushed at him, he would have started crying. Sometimes we teach children to overreact to situations based on our reactions!

Post # 16
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can understand how that would be scary! The bees who are saying he’s probably find seem right though–I wouldn’t worry about it. 

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