Post # 1
I am invited to a baby shower tomorrow, and all the gifts left in the registry are the big ticket items, which are way out of my budget. So, would it be rude to bring a gift that’s not in the registry? I know babies always need loads of new clothes and pj’s, so I was thinking maybe gifting 2-3 non-newborn outfits, maybe around the 6-9month sizes because they’ve probably been receiving a lot of newborn stuff but they grow so fast! So, is this a good alternative? Do ya’ll have any suggestions? Will gifting outside of the registry be rude? Thanks for all the help!
Post # 3
It isn’t rude to gift outside the registry. If you want to get an outfit, keep in mind the time of year when the baby will wear the size you buy. I would buy one outfit and a couple of packs of diapers- buy those in a larger size too.
Post # 4
Personally, I wouldn’t do that. Get a gift certificate to the store where she’s registered–she can use it toward a bigger ticket item, or whatever else she needs. She will probably end up with a ton of baby outfits…
Post # 5
I just attended a baby shower and even though the registry had a ton of stuff in all price points (as low as $2!), I would say about 50%+ of the gifts she received were not from the registry or people mixed registry with non-registry. The people with kids tended to buy things that their kids loved as babies that weren’t on the registry. We often include clothes that are in bigger sizes as well (but keep in mind what season it is 6/9/18 months from now). The other people who gifted non-registry items did cute personal items, like a handmade quilt and personalized wall art. This would depend on the mom and how much she likes this kind of thing. FI and I personally are rather particular so we would want it to all match, but the mom loved it all.
I’ve also given baskets of babyproofing supplies and I’ve noticed quite a few couples forget to include that in the registry. The moms I gave that to loved the basket. You get the usual outlet covers, cabinet locks, tub spout covers, etc.
And a gift card is always appreciated. 🙂
(If you do diapers, I would consider including a gift receipt as some parents prefer certain brands over others.)
Post # 6
I would do a case of size 3 diapers and wipes plus a 9-12 month outfit. That’s what I always do.
Post # 7
My sister in law had a baby shower a few months ago, and got SO many clothes, I don’t think she’ll know what to do with all of them. I mean, the baby could wear a new outfit every day for her first year and still not get around to wearing everything. (And, unfortunately, she got none of the practical stuff they really needed for the baby, like a high chair, breast pump and bottles, car seat and so on.) Because of that, in your situation I would give a gift card to the place where they registered – so they can put it towards one of the larger items – and attach it to a small, inexpensive baby gift – either an outfit, some children’s books or a stuffed animal – to make it a little more fun than just a gift card!
Post # 8
Totally not rude! Babies always need clothes – you can get a bunch of onesies, too. Diapers are expensive and they’re always needed, also! But, I would also suggest going with a gift card and maybe something small on the side if you feel like you don’t just want to give money.