Post # 1
How often do you let your children with their grandparents / babysitter so you can have a night out with friends or a date night?
We do date night once a month and leave our children with our parents for the night so we can have a full night of sleep.
Anything more than that and I feel uncomfortable. Since this is our once a month alone time together, it is sacred to us and we almost never go out with friends because I feel uncomfortable leaving our children to sleep somewhere else more than once per month. AND since our daughter doesn’t sleep through the night, I don’t want to go to bed later than 8:30 if we have them home – which means we only see our friends in the mornings, nothing too exciting about that!
How do you feel about babysitting?
Post # 3
@mommytobee: We have a nanny 3X a week for 3 hours during the afternoon, which is great as I get to do cleaning, nave a nap etc. For nights, usually my Mom will watch DS 3 or 4 times per month so DH and I can go for dinner. I haven’t left DS overnight with anyone and wouldn’t right now- he’s two, still breastfeeds (I’m 5 months pregnant, so not much milk there but he does it for comfort), doesn’t sleep through the night…just not ready to be without me overnight yet. DH’s brother has three kids and he would leave them with the grandparents EVERY weekend, all weekend. I thought that was way too much- it’s nice to have a break, but imho you should spend quality time with them as well!
Post # 4
We never really do, since we have no family and only a few friends in the area. Once in a while, our daughter is invited for a sleepover at her friend’s house down the street (she’s 10) and we use those times to go out alone. Otherwise my husband occasionally takes an afternoon from work to go have coffee with me for a date.
I think taking time out for yourselves as a couple is really important though, and I wouldn’t feel even the slightest bit of guilt for having one night a month that is all yours – I’d even feel okay about taking a second evening (maybe not a full overnight) to go out and have dinner or a drink with friends. Some of my comfort is probably that my kid is older, and I’m guessing yours are quite little still, and I definitely understand not wanting to leave small babies very much.
Post # 5
DD has a sleepover once a month since she was 6 weeks with my parents. They love it and look forward with their time with her and it’s really nice to have a night off to go out or just relax.
Post # 6
My mother watches our girls apx. once a month.
Post # 7
For overnights, we haven’t done 1 yet for our little boy who is 2. Mostly because DH’s parents live out of state and my parents live over a 1.5 hours away. And we really do not have anyone to watch our little boy, least not someone who lives close to us.
DH does have a brother who lives about 30 min away but they have 2 small children of their own. My Best GF, her daughters are 20 and almost 18. Her oldest has watched our son couple of times but again she lives for drive time over 45 min away.
Post # 8
We have date night once a month but not overnight yet. It is soooo important to us!
Post # 9
I think it depends on the age of your kids, who you are leaving them with, and how adjusted your kids are.
Leaving them with your parents is good for helping them adjust and some of my best memories of being a kid are staying with my grandparents for the weekend, so even though you see it as sending them away, as a kid, I saw it as a priviledge.
Do what is right for your kids. Only you (and your DH) know what is best.