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If she asked you to watch your child, I think, the least she can do is pay you the full amount. It seems like she's taking you for granted. You gave a service she should pay up. I would at least ask when she'll pay the rest.
I would say that I won't look after her kids until she pays you in full. Since this is obviously an issue with her, I would ask for 1/2 upfront, and 1/2 when you leave for the day. If she is unable to pay they you shouldn't be doing the work.
Text her back and say - I understood we agreed that $7/hour was a fair price. For the x hours of my time I spent caring for your child/children, I expected to receive $xx. I'd appreciate if you compensate me accordingly (or according to our agreement).
AND - I'd never accept a job from her again!
Good luck!
You really should receive the money the day you perform the services for her. I would ask for all the balance she owes before going back to her and if you work for her again, get all the money the day of service.
I'm pretty sure the national minimum wage is something like $7.35 now... which means you should be making at LEAST that much. I would tell her that you two agreed upon a price and you cannot watch her kids any more until you are paid in full. If she gives you a hard time about it I'd start working on retainer.
Do you have a written contract? Or have records of your communications? If not it might be hard to get her to pay you. I would respond to her in writing or call her and just explain that you had an agreement and expect her to follow through. If she refuses to and she owe's you a significant amount you could take her to small claims. I'm guessing its not that significant of an amount so if she can't pay you I would immediately stop babysitting.
You need to tell her that she needs to pay you the full amount for the hours you have worked. I have to pay daycare in advanced, whether or not my son is going to be there. I also pay my babysitters as soon as a get home. Watching kids is hard work and you deserve to get paid for it. Just tell her that you agreed on a price and that you need to be paid for all the time you have put in already.
I agree with the rest. You need to get paid. Explain nicely that you can't babysit anymore if she can't pay. You can't work for free!
Stand up for yourself! It is not bi*$%y to inquire about the money you rightfully earned! It shouldn't be awkward FOR YOU at all. It should be awkward for her! Tell her, "Hey, I actually still haven't been paid for last Saturday (or whenever), when do you think you'll be getting that to me?" It's possible she just forgot. It's also possible that she's taking advantage of the fact that you haven't spoken up yet. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!
obviously I didn't understand the situation when I first read it...
It's a little more awkward that she KNOWS she isn't paying you. Weird. Even more a reason to a. get ALL of your money now and b. never babysit for her again. I know it can be a little uncomfortable, but have confidence and say very directly (even if just in a text) "No, I'm sorry, that's not ok with me. I'd like the agreed upon amount" Or, if you are willing to let her do a payment plan type thing (which is a little ridiculous for babysitting if you ask me) tell her, "I'll accept half now, and the other half in two weeks."
Thanks for all the comments. I feel that I should get paid but then I kinda feel bad that shes tight on money and felt like I was being selfish for wanting her to pay me all of it. My mom said even if its just babysitting it is still my job and I should get paid. I am glad off of you feel the same way. Thanks!!!
I'll babysit for 6 -10 days over two weeks and she always pays me late (like a week after I babysat). This is what I do I spend all day Saturday and Sunday with them and during the week I pick them up from school help them with their homework, feed them dinner, help them with their chores, and put them to bed. The little girl is a handful example I was loading the dishwasher after lunch one day (I seriously had my back turned for a second) I went to grab some dishes out of the sink and she is burning a glad container lid over the stove and it almost caught on fire. This is just one example of the things this girl does. She'll do them in front of me too and lie to me about it.
I understand that she can't afford a babysitter and doesn't have anyone to watch her kids while shes at work but come on. My SO works with her and he doesn't want it to be awkward for them at work if I say something to her. I do think I am going to stop babysitting for her.
I'm seriously concerned that she's taking advantage of your relationship. Regardless if she's strapped for cash or not, if you AGREED on a price, that is the price she NEEDS to pay you. Even if you literally watch the kids once a month and they're asleep the whole time, that is the price she needs to pay you, because that's what she told you she'd pay you!!! It's ridiculous to me that someone would try to cop-out of that... sorry, for some reason your situation is really hitting me hard! haha. but seriously, DO NOT let her get away with not paying you. This isn't like a close family friend or anything that you help out once in a while, this is someone who is TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU! DO NOT FEEL BAD!!!
@semanthia... Hate to say it, but the girl's behavior sounds pretty learned, as her mom isn't holding up with the agreement too. You're getting used by both of them--the mom doesn't respect you and the girl doesn't seem to, either. I definitely support your decision to stop babysitting and I would send her an invoice for the rest of the money!
You could fib and say that your job right now is becoming more demaning and you unfortunatley cannot continue to babysit her child. Then I would give her a date by which you need to be paid in full.
Wow - anyone who can find a babysitter who is willing to watch a fire-setting child for $7/hour would normally be extremely grateful, and pay promptly.
I agree with all of the above posters that you should stop babysitting for this woman, since she is aware and unconcerned that she is shortchanging you. It's quite possible that she won't pay you the money she owes you since she seems to completely lack integrity, and you and your husband will need to decide if pursuing the amount of money that she owes you is worth the stress of damaging his work relationship with her.
It is completely unfair that you have been put into this situation, but the mom is going to have a very difficult time replacing you if $7/hour is the going rate for babysitters in your area with children who don't set fires.
It's nice to hear an outsiders opinion and have it be the same as your own. LOL
Sunshinebride: Sounds like something similar has happend to you. Sorry it sucks. If everyone was kind, honest and fair the world would be a better place. Sounds cheesy but it is true.
Professorbee: I found myself giggling at your comment. For some reason the way you wrote about fire setting children was amusing. Fire setting is only the beginning of this little girls problems I could write a book on it. One day she sang a song about killing me nice huh? I made her go sit in a time out for shoving grass in her four year old brothers mouth and she came out a few minutes later with a gun case asking me if I knew what it was with this creepy smile on her face. She gets this smile everytime shes about to do something bad. I yelled at her and told her to put it away. Sometimes I feel like super nanny they don't listen very well and have no manners.
cinemaparadiso: I think everything thing she says and everything she does is learned. She has an attitude problem worse than a 16 year old as does her mother and she lies about everything. For some reason lying really gets under my skin I was taught lying is bad and you only get in more trouble for doing it. I will catch her in a lie and she will keep lying until she can't anymore and then tells me "Actually I was talking to myself." I started saying "If you did it, you admit it" it kind of have a ryhme to it. I feel stupid using it as much as I have to but I hope it'll stick. My mom laughed when I told her about LOL.
Wow what an ungrateful child... I'd have stopped watching her long ago, pity for this woman or not! So sorry you've had to deal with this!
Wow, does her mom know about this behavior?!?! I also can't believe they store their guns any where near a place that their children can reach, I don't care if its locked. This girl's behavior is VERY concerning, even for a kid. I would stop babysitting regardless if you get paid or not because I would be worried watching a child that has that sort of behavioral problems that the parents aren't addressing.
... she needs to pay you the full amount. Now. You did the work, watched her kids while she did whatever, and now you deserve to be compensated for your time. $7 an hour is really not that much and even if you don't *need* the money, you still did it. Fair's fair.
Bamboo: I asked her mom about it and she told me "Well that is hers, her dad bought it for her. Its not loaded, that stuff is all at her dads. I'm not sure if it has a lock I'll have to check into that." mean while having NO expression of concern. My dad teachs gun safety to children so I know all about it. You shouldn't play with it even if "It's not loaded" guns are not toy!! Her mom doesn't seem to care about her behavior she makes excuses for her and enables her behavior.
Oh jeez! This lady wasn't really paying you a fair price for your child-watching services as it is, so she should at least give you what she owes you. And please, don't accept jobs from her again. You have a complete right to be treated with respect in this kind of paid situation - both by the children and by their mother (in that she should pay you what you agreed upon!!!). I nanny quite a bit myself in addition to my 40 hr a week job in order to make a bit more money (weddings are expensive!) and I would not tolerate that kind of disrespect from the kids or from their mother, the "employer." If I were in your shoes, I'd politely request the rest of my money, then decline to watch her kids again.
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I have been babysitting for this lady for about 3 1/2 months. She is just now paying me for babysitting three weeks ago and she isn't even paying me the whole amount. We agreed that $7 an hour was a fair price. I know it is just babysitting but the extra money is nice. Is it wrong of me to expect her to pay me for the hours I babysat? How do I bring this up to her? She txt me asking if it ok that she only pay me some of it?