Babysitting my 2 yr old

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6958 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@suez:  um. Part of babysitting a toddler is changing diapers. If he won’t do on of the basic functions of a babysitter he can’t babysit. And obviously the pool table thing is a safety issue. Don’t put your child at risk to keep your MIL from nagging you. Tell her exactly why you aren’t having him sit. 

Post # 4
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@suez:  …when in doubt, two is better than one.  Sure, the 13 year old can babysit, find an older, more experienced sitter to supervise if you aren’t confident, like a cousin or older sibling….that way, you’re still letting it happen, but with a more seasoned and responsible person in the house at the same time.

Post # 5
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@suez:  They sat you down and told you that you were ‘in the wrong’ for not wanting this 13 yr old to babysit? That’s messed up. Why are they so interested in having him babysit? It’s not their place or responsibility to decide what’s ok/not ok for your child.


Sounds like he isn’t really that interested anyway if he’s not willing to change diapers and left your child on a pool table. I would be telling the in-laws that you don’t think this 13 year old is mature enough to babysit a toddler and that you will be finding a different, trustworthy babysitter for the times when you need. 


Post # 6
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I started baby-sitting when I was 11, and I was a great and responsible baby-sitter. However, that is definitely not true of all 11-year-olds (or 12, or 13, etc). When I started baby-sitting for families for the first time, sometimes they would have me come over and “practice” baby-sitting for a couple of hours–like, they would be there, but I would be taking care of the baby so they could see that I knew what I was doing (including diapers, making bottles, etc.). Could you have this child do that? And, needless to say, only have him baby-sit if he meets your standards!!

Post # 7
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@suez:  I babysat a 2 year old when I was 13. She’s a fine young lady today and nothing was ever broken or even so much as scratched. 🙂 However, I was very mature and responsible 13-year-old, and was willing to change her pull ups as needed. This kid doesn’t sound like he even wants to babysit. 

Post # 8
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@suez:  Please do not let them bully you into leaving your child with a 13 year old boy who is clearly not mature enough for the task.

2 year olds need much more supervision than older children. It doesn’t sound like he is up to the task. Additionally 13 year old boys are not known for their high functioning brains haha. 

I was a fine babysitter at around 11-12, but girls tend to mature faster than boys, and I never really babysat infants or toddlers at that age, it was always older kids.

Post # 10
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@suez:  You’re the mom. You and your husband decide who cares for your child. No one else’s opinion matters. 

Post # 11
1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ummmm no. Hell no. He is a 13 yr old boy that obviously doesn’t WANT to, nor can he. Hire a babysitter. Use or to find someone in your area that has had a background check performed and that has references from other families.

Post # 12
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@suez:  I would also be a little weirded out that they are pushing this so much. Its very weird.

Post # 13
9037 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@suez:  Nothing is more important than keeping your child safe.  Nothing.  You are responsible, first and foremost, for your child’s safety.  If you don’t feel comfortable having this 13-year-old child babysit your 2-year-old, DON’T ALLOW IT.  Give any reason you want to, the bottom line is this is your kid, your decision.  Don’t risk your child’s safety for even 5 minutes, ever.

Post # 14
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@suez:  Your child- your rules! If you don’t feel comfortable with having the 13 yr old babysit, it’s your right to say no. That’s rude they are bullying you into it. They need to be put in their place.

Post # 16
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

NO you aren’t wrong for not trusting others with YOR BABY.


Fire his irresponsible teenage ass and get a REAL sitter.

Even if you hhve to do it behind husband’s back like he did with you and the 13-year-old-kid.
That’s not and OK way for a dad to act – YOU AND THE BABY are his family now, you both should come before what his extended family wants.

Don’t go to the party if this is going to turn into an issue, he’s a big boy, he can go by himself.

He should have declined the invite if they’re selectively inviting certain family kids, anyway.

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