Post # 1
Just wanted to update everyone on my, um, displeasure with my groomsmen and some of what went down at FIs bachelor party. When I got home from work last night (arriving to flowers and dinner) Fiance texted one of his groomsmen (the one who asked about “rules”) and told him I was home. The boys had been in a tizzy all day, beating themselves up that I was so unhappy. He called me immediately and we had a heart-to-heart about the weekend. He told me that it was never their intention to disrespect me and that they all truly believe that if I had been a fly on the wall, I would have been laughing and would not have been upset at what I saw. He said they debated a lot about even having strippers and the three single guys there pushed for it so they did it and they all regretted it. They actually cut the one hour they had paid for off short and asked the girls to leave (FI had mentioned they weren’t there long but didn’t know someone had asked them to leave). The way he described the things happening with the strippers actually made me feel bad for my guy, it all sounds more humiliating than sexy (which the evil part of me says they deserve for even hiring strippers!)
So now I feel like I was overreacting and what went on was not near as bad in reality as it was in my head. I’m really happy with how the guys have handled this situation and how they have dealt with me – never once did any of them suggest that I was overreacting and do anything to make me feel like a controlling, insecure girl. They took my discomfort seriously and really tried to make amends. I really believe them when they say they never meant for me to feel disrespected and were back in the lovefest we had before the weekend. They really are good guys and they really do care about me and the ox.
Thank you to the girls that were really supportive yesterday, I appreciate it. I’m sure you all know what it’s like to blow something up in your head and get all worked up about something, especially in the stress of wedding planning.
Post # 3
I’m super happy to hear that it got all resolved! It all sounds like a bit of a misunderstanding and something that got a bit blown out of proportion yesterday. I’m really glad that you seem to have a super caring Fiance and bridal party that are really concerned about your feelings!
Post # 4
Glad to hear about the positive resolution.
Post # 5
oh thats good news! im glad things worked and sorry you had to feel bad about it at all!
Post # 6
Ah…I’m so happy that everything worked out. I didn’t think you were overreacting at all, and I’m glad that the guys cared enough about your feelings that they immediately made things right with you as soon as they could. So glad to hear the happy ending!
Post # 7
I’m so glad to hear it. Even if you hadn’t gotten the details about the general discomfort, knowing that they valued your feelings and wanted to make amends is super valuable in itself. Don’t worry about whether or not you overreacted, how were you supposed to know their internal concerns? This seems overall to have been positive in the end, you know Fiance has stand-up friends, even if they are momentary idiots (and who isn’t?).
Post # 8
Yay! I’m glad to hear that there was a happy ending.
Post # 9
You have some cool dudes on your side. I’m hoping when the time comes that my boyfriend will just want to go camping with the guys.
Post # 10
@ Miss Biner – here’s hoping!
Aside from this one incident, these guys did have the nerdiest bachelor party ever. They rented a beach house and went on bike rides and played board games and cards. One of the GMs told me they felt like they had to have strippers because the single guys made them feel so lame for just wanting to chill (most of the guys are married or engaged).
Post # 11
I’m glad that everything worked out!
Post # 12
oh yay! for your happy ending. So glad those GMs cared enough to make it clear what happened & clear the air.