Weddingbee boards

Fiancee has decided to go the Cabo San Lucas for another friend's bachelor party for a weekend ($700).  His friend's fiancee has invited me to her bachelorette party as well in Cancun that same weekend ($800).  I have decided to forgo the bachelorette party for several reasons 1) grad school, 2) work (full time engineer), 3) we are saving and paying for our own wedding.  Anyhow, I've tried explaining to Fiancee that it's more important to save for our own wedding rather than spending that much for an international bachelor party.  The other couple getting married doesn't have any money problems as their parents are footing the entire bill thus they are having their b/b parties in expensive places.  I've also tried to explain that maybe it would also be better if he took that money ($700) and spent it on his own bachelor party, which he want's to do in Colorado.  Why spend that amt. of $$ on someone else party, when you can spend it on your own.  I may be a party pooper, but hey we need the money, and just seems better to save for our own expenses rather than spend $$ on someone's party.  Thanks for listening.

Thanks everyone.  Today fiancee told me that he is definitely going and and it doens't matter what I say.  I'm thinking I should just calm down and drop it before I say anything I regret.  I'm somewhat of a hot head.  As for the other bride to be, we used to be roomates post college, but it wasn't like we were great friends.  I consider her a friend, but we just don't have many things in common.  The only thing in common that we do have is just we are both electrical engineers.  She really wants me to go, but I've already told her I can't b/c of financial responsibilites.  I have yet to respond to her 2nd/3rd email asking me.  I know something like this is going to come up, "how come b**** is going and you are not?"  Oh well, since there is nothing I can do.  I'll just have to sit and fester for bit.  Thanks again for listening gals.   Oh and yeah, what is it with the uber expensive parties anyhow.  I would of understood vegas, but Cabos San Lucas and Cancun.....during spring break...ugh.

even vegas is expensive these days. my fi's groomsmen were planning a bach party there but have now dropped those plans due to high costs (we're on the east coast tho). when i used to think bachelor / bachelorette parties, i thought stretch hummer, bar hopping, and strip club. it's funny bc our neighborhood is THE place to go for bachelor/ette parties- i see them every weekend (so maybe $100 a person if you get real drunk).  not 2-3 days off work, sitting in an airport & dropping a grand...