Bachelor party

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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8707 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope. What he did was his business. I trust him explicitly. I know he won’t sleep with another person, and that’s all that mattered to me.

ETA: Strippers are just doing a job. They don’t give a crap about my husband or his marital status, they would just want money. If he wanted a stripper, I didn’t care. It wasn’t like he was going to bring her back to a hotel room or anything.

Post # 4
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422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@inspiration86:  we eloped so there was no bachelor or bachelorette party. that being said, he was fully aware strippers/strip clubs and the like were off limits. in fact, if he were even to be so callous in suggesting them, the wedding would have been cancelled and we d have broken things off. this is just my personal opinion. i find it disrespectful and most of all, a huge red flag that the man isnt ready for marriage or any type of commitment if he feels the need or desire to watch naked women prance around, receive lap dances or worse. big deal breaker for me.

Post # 5
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2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We aren’t having bach parties for either one of us…mostly because our friends and family are spread out in different states but there are other reasons too. We aren’t the type to go out or anything either. I’m not comfortable with strippers so I don’t know what kind of panic attack I would have if I had to worry about that! I think the most important thing for you to worry about is to discuss the boundaries BEFORE the party so nobody gets their feelings hurt.

Post # 6
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

We have agreements about what we consider cheating. No rules on the bachelor party though. I trust him completely. I don’t get special restrictions on bachelor parties…if a man wants to cheat he will, bachelor party or not. 

Post # 7
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7216 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@inspiration86:  We long ago agreed that strippers were inappropriate, at a bachelor party or at any other time. (I don’t get “special rules” for bachelor parties, either something is ok or it isn’t).

Post # 8
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We arent doing bachelor/bachelorette parties, but if we were then I would have said no strippers/strip clubs. I just don’t think that a man who is about to be married should be interested in going to a strip club or having a last hurrah. That just doesn’t sit well with me. If anything, that point in his life should be when he least wants to partake in that. If that is important to him and he really wants to go do that then I feel like maybe he isn’t quite ready for marriage.

Post # 9
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t go to Mexico because I don’t think it is safe to travel there. He went to Vegas instead.

Don’t get arrested. I refused to dry/fly to bail him out and he didn’t need to do anything to get the attention of internal affairs or the 7th floor (where the chiefs have their offices). This was more of a joke than a “rule” since I knew he’d never actually do anything that resulted in getting arrested. 

I really did not care what he did in regards to strippers. I don’t understand the appeal but if he and his buddies went I really didn’t care. 

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