Bachelor party 2 nights before the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: How do you feel about having a bachelor party 2 nights before the wedding?
    Good idea : (23 votes)
    33 %
    Bad idea : (47 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 3
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Groominator:  I think if the bride thinks it is a bad idea then it is something you need to consider. You’re marrying her, not them. My question to you is this: who would you rather annoy right before your wedding, your bride or your friends? 😉

    Post # 4
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I would be slightly concerned, but it really depends on the personalities involved. 

    I know my SO can be the vomit comet when he drinks, and he will continue to feel bad well into the next couple of days, which is not really ideal timing.  Also, 2 days before the wedding is kind of a high-stress/high-work timeframe, and I wouldn’t be thrilled to be running around frantically/asking my mom to help to make up for him not being there.

    That said, it totally depends on what kind of bachelor party you want to have, and how much responsibility you’re going to have 2 days before the wedding.

    Post # 5
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    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think that is a terrible idea!

    Post # 6
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    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    You’re an adult capable of making adult decisions. If that’s when you want your party, and you know you will be fully available, and in good spirits, for wedding stuff the next day, then go for it. It’s my opinion that your bride to be should trust you to make good decisions while still having a good time.

    If you are a terrible drunk and have done things to make her doubt your ability to be responsible, then expect push back from her. But otherwise, I stand by my “you’re an adult,” mantra.

    Post # 8
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    229 posts
    Helper bee

    I personally think having the bachelor party two nights before is WAY better than the night before. And since you have people flying out around that time anyway I agree that it would be best two days before. asking people to get a separate flight for a single day might result in a handful of people not being able to make it to the party. Just reassure your lady that you won’t be completely messed up the next day. Maybe set up something fun for her to do while you’re out as well, so she can have a good time as well. 

    Post # 9
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    3736 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We’re having my bachelorette party 2 nights before our wedding, so I think you should be fine. I assume that since you’re adult enough to get married, you’re adult enough to control your drinking so you don’t have a two-day hangover. 

    Post # 10
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Groominator:  I had a big party in my room the night before the wedding, and I know DH went out drinking with his friends the night before the wedding!

    And our wedding was at 10am. We both made it, and no one wanted to die the next morning!

    You should definitely be fine!

    Post # 11
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    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    My bachelorette party is two nights before our wedding because, like you, my people are coming from all over the place (Washington, Texas, New York, Virginia, Mississippi). I see no problem with having the bachelor party that close to the wedding because how else are you going to be able to celebrate with your best friends?

    Post # 12
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    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Groominator:  I see no problem with this.  Our friends got married out of state and the bride and groom both had their bachelor/bachelorette parties 2 days before the wedding – and everyone was fine (minus one bridesmaid) for the rehearsal. 

    Post # 13
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    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    My DH and I both had our Bachelor and Bachelorette parties two nights before the wedding. Unfortunately our bridal party is really spread out and there just wasn’t a good way to get everyone back in the same city before the wedding week.

    It turned out fine. DH and I were both pretty hung over Friday morning, but I still made it to our nail salon appointment at 8:30am and we both were fine by the time the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner rolled around.

    Post # 14
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    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    For the same reason I’m having mine 2 days before the wedding.  It really came down to I either have it then or I don’t have one due to most of my guests and wedding party coming in from out of state.  I say pick a friend that you really trust and have them monitor your booze level, or have them make sure you drink a glass of water in between each drink.

    Post # 15
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    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My FI’s bachelor party is 2 days before the wedding.  ALL of our groomsmen except 1 live out of town.  My best friend (the one local GM) is the one planning it and everyone arrives into town 2 days before the wedding.  So it was just easier to plan it that way.  They all know not to go crazy, or they have to deal with ME, and they know they don’t want that!  Cool

     

    Post # 16
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    2319 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think it’s a bad idea.

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