- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
A couple days ago, my FI’s best friends texted him to talk about having a bachelor party in the next couple of weeks. My FI turned around and asked me what I think and whether he should go or not. This is how the conversation went:
-FI: “What do you think? Should I go”
-Me: “Yeah, absolutely. Go and have fun” (I thought it is just a regular party with no stripping)
-FI: “Oh okay, I will let them know. So, what is the boundary? What is a no no?”
I said to myself: oh sheesh, it is strip club they are talking about.
-Me: “Well, just no private party, no lap dance, no private room that’s all”
-FI: “oh okay”
2 minutes passed, and I realized I am not comfortable
-Me: ” You know what, I am just going to be honest with you. I am not comfortable with this whole thing. I don’t believe in the whole idea of looking at women right before you are getting married”
-FI:” I understand. I have never been to strip club or into it anyway. Going or not doesnt make any difference. I will let them know just dinner and regular club. Oh, how about you and the girls join us too. It is boring with just the guys”
So, it was a happy ending in my case. I am grateful that my FI and his friends are so understanding. His best friend said “it’s your party, your call. My girl friend should be happy by now since there is no strip club”
I think I made a good decision by being honest with my FI. If I pretended everything was cool, I would feel uneasy after the fact.
Any Bee think that I am too controlling? I feel a little guilty. But I have heard so many horror situation and would rather everything stays this way