Post # 1
My FI wants to have his bachelor party at our apartment because he thinks it will be cheaper for his groomsmen. However, his best man wants to get a stripper. I have issues with strange people in our apartment (we were robbed a year ago), and I’m afraid the guys will tear our place apart. Also, a wedding guest and her young daughter will be staying with us that weekend, so I will have to drive them an hour away to spend the night at my parents the night of the party. Part of me really does not want this party to happen. I’m fine with him having a stripper, just not in our house. Am I crazy?
Post # 3
No you’re not crazy! I don’t think it will be cheaper to hire a stripper to come to your apartment anyway, versus going to the strip club.
Post # 4
No not at all, having a stranger in your house obviously increases your chances of getting robbed, my FI’s friend had a one night stand with a girl that stole his Ipod, so anything small can be stolen while their backs are turned. Plus you don’t want spilled beer all over the carpet & sofas.
I would suggest for the guys to get a hotel room, if all the guys chip in it will still be cheap. But honesly, I would imagine that getting a private stripper would be more expensive then just going to strip club.
Post # 5
I don’t think you are being crazy at all!
I would never allow a stripper in our apartment – even though I don’t have a huge problem with strip clubs in general.
Could you ask your FI to have the party at one of his buddies’ places?
Post # 6
I think you aren’t unreasonable!
So i am assuming the BM is in charge. Is the BM married? My initial thought is to change the venue to the BM house/apartment. Then you can still sleep in your own bed and you won’t be required to shuttle your guest around either.
Another option as many have suggested is just change the location to a strip club. Maybe they were planning on drinking and didn’t want to have anyone to DD or walk anywhere and thats another reason why they elected your house?
I would talk to the FI about the inconviences and insecurities which you have/will incur because of this party, but express that you want him to have the party. There should be plenty of options for them, you all just need to figure out what will provide a consensus for all.
Post # 7
You aren’t being unreasonable at all. Going to a bar isn’t that expensive.
Post # 8
You’re being perfectly reasonable. I wouldn’t allow it either.
In fact, my SO is hosting his brother’s bachelor party this coming weekend and I asked him to please have it anywhere but at our house. I just know the place would get destroyed, strippers or not. Luckily one of their friends (who lives with all guys) volunteered his house. They’ll be in and out, barbecuing, skiing, being gross, grunting, farting, etc. and I do not want to be responsible for my reactions to the filth. SO is also paying our housekeeper to clean his friend’s house after the weekend debauchery is through.
Post # 9
I personally wouldn’t want that kind of party going on in our home. Just my opinion, but I feel that our home should be for good times with friends and family for both of us. (besides that I’d be ticked if beer/alcohol, cigars, cigarettes, etc. got on our furniture, carpet, etc. That kind of stuff belongs elsewhere, plus, you already have a houseguest that weekend.
Post # 10
Heck naw! Why doesn’t your best man have it at HIS place?! THen he can clean up after his own boys, LoL. What a mess in your house, not worth the hassle. They can go somewhere inexpensive and still have a good time. And I think hiring someone to clean the house afterwards would be well-advised. Ever notice that no matter how much you clean, a fraternity house still smells like beer? Yeah, not pretty in your living room
Post # 11
Private strippers in your home??? Hell no you aren’t being unreasonable!
Post # 12
Thanks for all the advice and support, ladies! I did talk to my FI this weekend, and he agreed to hold the party at the hotel room of one of his groomsman.
Seriously though, I heart you, Hive!