Post # 1
So FI’s bachelor party is coming up this weekend. I am trying to be “cool” and not make a big deal about it but it is really hard. We had the “stripper” talk and we are very open about that kind of stuff.
My question is: Did your FI have a bachelor party with strippers? Did it go over well or was it a big fight?
Post # 3
@CarterLove: I couldn’t vote – my husband didn’t have strippers because HE didn’t want them.
Post # 4
I can’t really vote. He didn’t have strippers but I wouldn’t have cared if they saw some strippers at a club.
DH went to Vegas for his and I was perfectly fine with it. He’s not into strippers (and none of his friends are either) so I wasn’t really expecting them to see any. I wouldn’t have cared if they went to a club (I’ve been to many, including in Vegas) but I would never be okay with strippers in a hotel room. Anyway, they didn’t see any strippers and didn’t even go out bar hopping either. So his was pretty tame.
Post # 5
He hasn’t had his bachelor party yet but I’ll be honest, I kind of think bachelor parties are kind of lame if there aren’t strippers or something of the like (rowdy, scantily clad women, etc.). Strippers are just for fun in my opinion. For my friend’s bachelorette party, we went to see male strippers and it was just a big joke but we had such a good time.
Post # 6
@CarterLove: he didnt have strippers because 1. He didnt want them and 2. It was a long time ago prediscussed issue about how i felt about them in which i discovered he isnt into them anyway. In spite of that i didnt trust the best man. My dh informed him he would leave his bachelors if they got a stripper (of his own accord) but i made sure the best man got that he honestly would leave. Plus my fil was there and i know he wouldnt have stood by if any dodgey happened anyway. So i was a bit stressed but not too much
Post # 7
@CarterLove: OH hasn’t been on his yet.
Neither of us are fussed either way: he doesn’t particularly want to go to a strip club, he’s been before and doesn’t find it particularly interesting, he’d rather go to a proper pub than a strip club. But he wouldn’t kick up a fuss if his friends wanted to go, and I certainly have no issues with him going; it really doesn’t bother me at all.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Other. It did not have strippers because Mr. LK does not enjoy the stripper experience. They went fishing and drank beer while the sun rose over the bay, then had a BBQ at the best man’s house and hung out. He was home by 7pm and promptly fell asleep on the couch with his head in my lap.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Can’t vote… he didn’t have strippers but I wouldn’t have cared if he did. He preferred a day of XBox-ing with his guys, and barhopping later.
Post # 10
He went to Vegas with a group of friends (mostly married, all great guys) and they went to a strip club. I didn’t care at all and they had a great time. He’s only ever been to a strip club once in the 5 years I’ve known him, for another friend’s bachelor party. I would not be ok with him going on a regular basis or anything.
Post # 11
I am with a lot of PPs. I don’t care if my FI goes to see strippers (he has for other people’s parties) but he is at the point in his life where the novelty of strippers has worn off. He won’t for his party, but I really wouldn’t care if he wanted to.
Post # 12
I can’t vote either. My DH and his friends went to Vegas – but no strippers. His choice. They gambled, drank, and ate at fancy restaurants.
I think part of it also has to do with age – DH was 36 and was the youngest on the trip. The oldest was his brother at 51. All of them are married. They had their wild and crazy times, and now have the money to enjoy the finer things (like enpensive wine and whisky).
Post # 13
He didn’t have strippers because he thinks they are a waste of money and sees no point in them. I probably like them more than he does haha. Anyway I think it shows less than full trust if you worry about anything happening and insecurity if an eyeful alone bugs you. Especially for a one time thing.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
Yea, I can’t vote either. He didn’t have strippers because he didn’t want them. That being said, if he did want them, I would not care. I actually encouraged it, but he said no.
I’m glad you guys have been talking about it, but if you are so open about “this kind of stuff” then what exactly is bothering you so much?
Post # 15
My FI hasn’t had his but he’s gone to plenty of rowdy bachelor parties with strippers. I wasn’t fussed about it because if he was the type to get so drunk and have sex with a stripper, then it’s best to find that out before the wedding.
Post # 16
I can’t vote. He didn’t have his bachelor party yet, but he’s not having strippers. He and his friends are going camping.
He would not want strippers, he thinks strip clubs are gross. I also would not be okay with him having strippers. We’re in an exclusive committed relationship and are pledging to spend our lives together as a married couple. I don’t believe that having a partially or fully naked girl rub her body all over him is something I have to be okay with. If that means I’m not cool, so be it. He doesn’t want it either so luckily we’re on the same page.