Bachelor Party.. How Did You Feel About It?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: My FI's Bachelor Party.....
    Did have strippers and I was totally cool with it : (24 votes)
    23 %
    Did have strippers and I was NOT okay with it. : (6 votes)
    6 %
    Didn't have strippers because he knew I would kill him : (25 votes)
    24 %
    Didn't exist : (24 votes)
    23 %
    I love strippers : (9 votes)
    9 %
    Other : (17 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @CarterLove:  I couldn’t vote – my husband didn’t have strippers because HE didn’t want them.

    Post # 4
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    8592 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I can’t really vote.  He didn’t have strippers but I wouldn’t have cared if they saw some strippers at a club.

    DH went to Vegas for his and I was perfectly fine with it.  He’s not into strippers (and none of his friends are either) so I wasn’t really expecting them to see any.  I wouldn’t have cared if they went to a club (I’ve been to many, including in Vegas) but I would never be okay with strippers in a hotel room.  Anyway, they didn’t see any strippers and didn’t even go out bar hopping either.  So his was pretty tame.

    Post # 5
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    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    He hasn’t had his bachelor party yet but I’ll be honest, I kind of think bachelor parties are kind of lame if there aren’t strippers or something of the like (rowdy, scantily clad women, etc.). Strippers are just for fun in my opinion. For my friend’s bachelorette party, we went to see male strippers and it was just a big joke but we had such a good time.

    Post # 6
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    579 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @CarterLove:  he didnt have strippers because 1. He didnt want them and 2. It was a long time ago prediscussed issue about how i felt about them in which i discovered he isnt into them anyway. In spite of that i didnt trust the best man. My dh informed him he would leave his bachelors if they got a stripper (of his own accord) but i made sure the best man got that he honestly would leave. Plus my fil was there and i know he wouldnt have stood by if any dodgey happened anyway. So i was a bit stressed but not too much

    Post # 7
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    5421 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @CarterLove:  OH hasn’t been on his yet.

    Neither of us are fussed either way: he doesn’t particularly want to go to a strip club, he’s been before and doesn’t find it particularly interesting, he’d rather go to a proper pub than a strip club. But he wouldn’t kick up a fuss if his friends wanted to go, and I certainly have no issues with him going; it really doesn’t bother me at all.

    Post # 8
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Other. It did not have strippers because Mr. LK does not enjoy the stripper experience. They went fishing and drank beer while the sun rose over the bay, then had a BBQ at the best man’s house and hung out. He was home by 7pm and promptly fell asleep on the couch with his head in my lap.

     

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    Can’t vote… he didn’t have strippers but I wouldn’t have cared if he did. He preferred a day of XBox-ing with his guys, and barhopping later.

    Post # 10
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    4810 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    He went to Vegas with a group of friends (mostly married, all great guys) and they went to a strip club. I didn’t care at all and they had a great time. He’s only ever been to a strip club once in the 5 years I’ve known him, for another friend’s bachelor party. I would not be ok with him going on a regular basis or anything.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am with a lot of PPs.  I don’t care if my FI goes to see strippers (he has for other people’s parties) but he is at the point in his life where the novelty of strippers has worn off.   He won’t for his party, but I really wouldn’t care if he wanted to.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I can’t vote either. My DH and his friends went to Vegas – but no strippers. His choice. They gambled, drank, and ate at fancy restaurants.

    I think part of it also has to do with age – DH was 36 and was the youngest on the trip. The oldest was his brother at 51. All of them are married. They had their wild and crazy times, and now have the money to enjoy the finer things (like enpensive wine and whisky).

    Post # 13
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    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He didn’t have strippers because he thinks they are a waste of money and sees no point in them. I probably like them more than he does haha. Anyway I think it shows less than full trust if you worry about anything happening and insecurity if an eyeful alone bugs you. Especially for a one time thing.

    Post # 14
    coyoteBee
    2051 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    Yea, I can’t vote either. He didn’t have strippers because he didn’t want them. That being said, if he did want them, I would not care. I actually encouraged it, but he said no.

    I’m glad you guys have been talking about it, but if you are so open about “this kind of stuff” then what exactly is bothering you so much?

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    My FI hasn’t had his but he’s gone to plenty of rowdy bachelor parties with strippers. I wasn’t fussed about it because if he was the type to get so drunk and have sex with a stripper, then it’s best to find that out before the wedding. 

     

    Post # 16
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    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I can’t vote. He didn’t have his bachelor party yet, but he’s not having strippers. He and his friends are going camping.

    He would not want strippers, he thinks strip clubs are gross. I also would not be okay with him having strippers. We’re in an exclusive committed relationship and are pledging to spend our lives together as a married couple. I don’t believe that having a partially or fully naked girl rub her body all over him is something I have to be okay with. If that means I’m not cool, so be it. He doesn’t want it either so luckily we’re on the same page.

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