Post # 1
Long story short – most of my FI’s groomsmen are idiots. Sorry I’m not sorry. I won’t go into deets, but I will have a beautifully amazing bachelorette party in two weeks, and my poor groom is left with his hands in his pockets. He was planning on going camping this weekend with his groomsmen, and of the six only one remains to participate (excusing one other because he lives across-country), and his best man just cancelled yesterday. FI asked me last night if I just wanted to go camping this weekend him and I, and while I could if I moved some things around, I told him no. I have a TON of crafting projects I’m working on and it would set me back quite a bit if I took the weekend to go camping with him. I feel awful. His one participating groomsman called me this afternoon and is desperate for help in planning something for FI last-minute, but I have no idea. Can you ladies give me some idea? Here are some points that might help:
- FI originally wanted to go camping (campgrounds are only about 1.5 hours away) and build a campfire with his friends and have some beers and not having to worry about neighbors getting upset if they get a little loud. This might not be an option any longer, but that’s ok.
- We live in Las Vegas.
- He doesn’t want strippers.
- His groomsmen are all broke.
Any suggestions from you ladies are welcome! Thank you in advance!
Post # 2
What about a sports game? Does he like baseball or anything like that they could go to? Or maybe an experience like paintball, or hunting, or hiking?
I’m assuming he doens’t want to do anything that is “typical vagas”…
Post # 3
I’ve no idea what to suggest, but a couple of comments/questions:
* If it becomes a single night instead of camping, would more guys be available?
* Are there guys he can invite who aren’t in the bridal party? (For instance, do your bridesmaids have partners who will be stuck home alone and know your fiance?).
So I’d look at some sort of single night (or single afternoon) activity, depending something those two guys like (your fiance and the remaining groomsman), put the word out, and see if it gets more guys willing to come.
Post # 4
Poker night at someone’s house? Paintball? Microbrewery/distillery tour? Boat on the lake? Batting cages? Driving range? Shooting range?
My guy is going out to Vegas with some friends for his bachelor party in a few weeks- have them meet up? ha 🙂 Although my guy and his friends are more of the strip club type so I guess that wouldn’t be best. And that sucks. We have a lame groomsman (thankfully only one, but when you’re only have three the one makes a big difference). It really sucks, especially since our one is the guy that FI and I are both the closest to and thought would be the most excited for us.
Post # 5
sara_tiara: He doesn’t want to do the ‘typical vegas’ thing for sure! Our sports teams suck, honestly they do. He isn’t interested in getting pelted with paintballs, I already tried that, and most of the other groomsmen are not interested in the shooting range or hiking (let alone any physical activity, really)
aussiemum1248: They attempted something like this over this past weekend. Went over to a friends’ house for some booze and the whole thing turned into a mess. That friend that hosted was more interested in throwing a drinking party than my FI’s bachelor party, and my FI was miserable the whole time.
StL.Ashley: I love the idea of a brewery tour, we have a couple of those here, but the only problem with that will be the cost per person for the groomsmen, all except one and my FI. Also, one of the groomsmen (same one who doesn’t want to go camping) doesn’t drink beer. The lake is terribly low and swampy right now, driving range might be an idea.
I’m going to casually throw some of these ideas at him tonight hopefully without him knowing and see if anything sticks.
I’m the most dissapointed in his groomsmen – can’t they just get their head out of their asses for ONE DAY for their friend? It seems like the only thing they want is something free and involving booze.
Honestly, I would love for him to go to a strip club, or out to a burlesque show or something, but that is not really his idea of fun.
Post # 6
Ugh, that totally sucks. I’d look to also inviting pple outside the wedding party at this point since the groomsmen are being lame. Is there another weekend for camping that would be better? Can they just camp out in the backyard of somebody’s house? Maybe a BBQ at home for the guys?
Post # 7
MrsPHopefully: He invited as many of his friends that he could think of (not just the wedding party, but people invited to the wedding too) to the party last weekend that turned out to be a disaster and was more like a house party than a bachelor party.
I really like the idea of a backyard camp-out or bbq, but he is worried about his friends getting rowdy and neighbors complaining. If we try doing a BBQ at home, then my FI will be doing all the cooking and cleaning and won’t be enjoying himself.
Post # 8
Are the neighbors super sensitive or are the guys just that rowdy? Maybe forewarn the neighbors that you will be having a party on X weekend and that if they have any issues w/ noise (although you don’t anticipate being so loud) that they can call u directly at a specific # instead of calling the cops or something. Maybe have it during teh day that way nobody is getting woken up next door? You could also just order pizzas and have paper plates, cups, etc. Minimal cleaning.
Post # 9
Are your neighbours really sensitive? Do you know them? Our neighbours now are awesome about parties bc we both have a policy that we do nothing when the other gets loud, but we have had problems in the past….I found that letting them know ahead of time can sometimes go a long way, and ending things/moving inside at a reasonable hour should cover you.