- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Apologies in advance for the long post!
My fiance is currently in grad school getting his MBA and like all college students he has time off for Spring break. I agree this is an opportune time for a bachelor party, and since we live in TX, Mexico doesn’t seem too far fetched. So here’s why i’m upset:
#1) My fiance really wanted his good friend to come, but he has visa issues with the US so their only options were either Canada, or Mexico. I was weary from the start. This friend has bailed on my fiance more than once when he’s tried to plan an international trip, so I was very honest with my fiance and told him “don’t plan this trip around one person”. – But they planned mexico anyway and in the end the friend did bail.
2) My fiance has been really busy with Grad school and hasn’t had any time to plan our honeymoon. I don’t want to plan it, because I’ve pretty much planned the entire wedding and this is the one thing im asking him to do. I feel like the tables are turned, WE should have been going to Mexico for our honeymoon, not his bach party
3A) To back up. My fiance and I were dating long distance for 3 years – we had to fly to see one another. When he proposed last July I started the process of relocating, and 6 months later I moved to a new city, a new job and a new life with my fiance. I left an amazing job, awesome friends and family, and a city I had started to grow roots in…needless to say it has been a rough transition
3B) My frustration/anger is fueld by the fact that I just moved here a month ago. I admit that things might be different if I had a strong network of friends, but I don’t. So i’m just sitting in our appartment alone, festering.
4) Him and his buddies decided to make this a 5 day trip – 5 days! In comparison I am going no where exotic or warm, and my party will last for one night. A little jealous, sure, but just feel he should have thought this through before leaving his brand new fiance in an appartment alone for 5 days!!!!
I’ve been festering about this for the past month and no mater how hard I try to rationalize the situation, i still find myself mad, hurt and resentful towards him. Do i have a right to be mad? Yes/No – how do i move past this and stop letting it affect my relationship?