Post # 1
Is it weird for the bachelor (my FI) to be dropped off at our house the night of his bachelor party so I can deal with him?
His groomsmen don’t want to pay for a hotel, so they are driving all the way back home (a good 30 minutes from the bars) to drop him off. One of their wives will chauffeur. I told him he should at least crash at one of their houses, but he got annoyed that he was “planning the logistics of his own bachelor party”. lol
Is this normal?
Post # 2
That’s definitely the norm for everyone bachelor party my DH has been to. A bunch of grown men staying in a hotel room together sounds pretty terrible, he would not go to that. I usually pick DH up from the party and for his they dropped him off at our house. Definitely not weird.
Post # 3
texaslemon: LOL! I think many women would love it if their FIs were dropped off at home! BUt yeah he shouldn’t plan the logistics of the party being thrown for him. The guys probably all want to go home to their wives without the extra person :-/. How drunk do you really expect him to be tho? Wouldn’t he just go to bed?
IDK, I don’t think there is a set norm. My DH went to Wisc. Dells for the weekend so he was gone two nights. three days.
Post # 4
Well since it’s only 30 minutes away sure it’s normal. BUT you’re going to be stuck with him after whatever his friends do to him. Not saying they are going to try to take him down a peg but you might end up having to nurse him and that’s not really fair..
Post # 5
Boxerlover24: I trust him so I don’t mind him staying away the night. (that’s what they all say…lol) and I agree he shouldn’t have to plan it. I just thought he would make a comment saying “I don’t really want to go home” or something lol.
MstoMrsH: AAAnd exactly. I have nursed him many times and he is a complete pain in the ass.
I expect him to be completely black out drunk on the floor, sweaty, probably covered in puke. Not cool, guys, not cool.
Post # 6
He is your FI so it’s normal they would bring him back home. I haven’t ever heard of a bachelor party unless in another city where the guy wasn’t driven home to his waiting FI.
Post # 7
texaslemon: Haha! Ick! But seriously… I think it’s more passing the cleanup off to you if he’ll be covered in puke. Eww! As for normal… I’d say it’s not abnormal at least.
Post # 8
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My DH stayed at his friend’s house after his party. A lot of others, they get a hotel. Even for my bachelorette party I stayed at a friend’s house. I guess either one of us could have gone home, but I feel like it’s a you break it, you buy it situation. You get someone shitfaced, you deal with them that night. I wouldn’t make a thing about it though.
Mostly I feel bad for the wife who is chauffering them around. How did she get stuck with that? Ugh. And is she coming into the bars and hanging out with them. Poor woman.
Post # 9
Yeah, I think a lot just go home… unless a plan is made that he stays somewhere else.
Mine went out of town for his, so that wasn’t an option. But, if he was in town… he would have been dropped off.
For my party, he actually picked us up from one venue to drive us to the next, and then picked some of us at the end of the night. He offered! However, my sister got a hotel room so I just stayed there with her… so he jusy dropped us (and a friend) off there.
Post # 10
Why wouldn’t he want to come home if he’s that close (30 mins), why do you think he’d rather crash on a couch and not his own bed beside his woman?
As for the drunken, pukey mess…..well, that’s the guy you’re marrying. If this is how he behaves then you either accept it and help him or let him deal with it himself and go to bed and leave him to his own misery.
You could always tell him not to come home until the morning, that you don’t want to deal with him in that state and see what he says. That’s the real crux of the issue, is it not? Or you could offer to pay for the hotel room and tell them to have a boys’ night out and come home after brunch the next day.
Post # 11
texaslemon: My husband stayed at a hotel the night of his back party. They were at a casino about 40 minutes away- and they were all drinking, so I think they had two rooms between all of them.
I don’t think it’s “abnormal” that they are going to bring him home– but I imagine many guys just stay at a buddies.
For me– my husband, in general, does not go out late and get drunk– but if there were such an occasion, I just prefer he stays out for the night at a friend’s house. I don’t want to get woken up when he gets home– although he isn’t much to “deal” with– he’d just change his clothes and crash.
Either way, we have a six year old– so party animal can find a place to crash, IMO!!
Post # 12
Lydia2013: That’s what I am thinking. They said they didn’t want to spend money on a hotel room, either. They have shared a hotel room multiple times so I know that’s not the issue. (they say as long as they don’t get under the covers it’s not weird…LOL).
soontobeMrsBoo: Exactly! these are my exact thoughts. I did the exact thing he is doing for his, except my BMs got a hotel room nearby and we took ubers all night. We would have crashed at one of their places, if not. I came home after brunch the next day nice and hungover 🙂
cdncinnamongirl: All of our friends have nice houses with multiple guestrooms, so it’s not like it would be uncomfortable by any means. As for dealing with him when he’s drunk, it’s not like I mind, but he is very stubborn when he drinks. I usually end up leaving him as long as he is in no danger and going to sleep lol.
Post # 13
lol I’d have my bachelorette party away from home that weekend! 😉
Post # 14
MrsWBS: I had mine a few weeks ago 🙁 Otherwise that sounds like a great idea! maybe I can have 2?? ha!
Post # 15
Yeah, they’re pretty close, so I think that’s typical. And, it’s not like anyone is going to be forcing him to get black-out drunk. If he chooses to, then he deserves a hangover. But, if he gets himself that drunk then I don’t think need to nurse him tenderly. Beyond making sure that he doesn’t need to go to the hospital, just put him somewhere he can’t make too much of a mess – aka the bathroom (or maybe the garage) then make him clean it up in the morning.