(Closed) Bachelor Party Worries

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Strippers are strippers so matter where they live. If you trust him, there should be nothing to worry about.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My DH went to Montreal for his bachelor party and they did go to a strip club.

As long as you trust your DH and his friends not to go to the seedier places/ask fro the “not so kosher” things that go on, then you have nothing to worry about.

I fully trust my DH and I trust his guys not to try to get him to do anything that would harm our relationship so I just had a girls weekend while we has away and only asked he texted me once per day to let me know he was alive.

Just because there are clubs where girls are willing to do much more, doesn’t mean that they will force your guy to do it or that your guy will take advantage of it.

Just set your boundaries before he goes and as long as you both agree on what is acceptable and not acceptable (and he’s a trustworthy guy) then you just need to let him do his thing and trust.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I never heard that before and I’m from Montreal! Even if the strippers there are more likely to “do a little more”, that doesn’t mean your FI will go for it. Just make sure your FH knows what is crossing a line for you and then trust him.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@blue44:  I have a question–is  there some reason for them to be going to Montreal BESIDES the fact that the strippers do more, and there is full nudity?

Are you close to Montreal? Because I’m sure you trust him, but if he is traveling a long way to go to Montreal, a place known for anything goes strip clubs,  there is a reason to question his  motives.

Just to clear things up, Montreal strip clubs are known for prostitution–there is full nudity and you are free to touch the strippers–one example is that during a lap dance a stripper will have sex with a dildo that is strapped to the mans face–or she will put a lollipop inside her and hand it to guys

No matter where he goes, it would be a good idea to go over what exactly the boundaries are—so that he doesn’t unwittingly do something that you would be  upset about

 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@sylvia.riggle:  Montreal is a fun city to visit. Lots of clubs, restaurants, places to gamble, and yes strip clubs.

My DH went there with his guys because it was a fun place to go and he was really excited to take the train there from NYC.

Heck, I want to go to Montreal, it sounds like a really fun city to visit!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think the PP gave you a lot of great insight.  And I think you should try and remember that the other posters issues in her relationship can be very different from your relationship with your FI.

Open communication, trust and honesty go a long way and I’m big on discussing beforehand vs. fighting after.

Deep breath, trust your man and have a candid chat with him about your feelings.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@KatNYC2011:  Yeah Montreal is known for it’s great nightlife, not just it’s stripclubs!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@DeathByDesign:   never heard that before and I’m from Montreal!


LOL!! That’s fantastic.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@axeyourmakeupkit:  Maybe it’s because I’ve not been to many strip clubs in my life, though lol. I know there are a LOT of strip clubs in montreal, but I never heard that the strippers were any more… er… outgoing than anywhere else lol.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@DeathByDesign:  LOL.  It’s sort of like knowing the stereotype of your city though, even if you don’t fit within it you know?

I’m actually still sitting in my office laughing about this.  Plus it makes me think, how bad could it be when this resident doesn’t even know about it. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

I think men KNOW what is cheating and what isn’t…. 

As for me, porn and strip clubs is “cheating” Men and women are going there specifically to watch naked people doing exotic dances on stage showing their ” private parts”, sometimes up close, which obviously gets you all sexually excited. Sure there is no sex there being performed, but “private parts” are called that for a reason, they should be private.

And yes, I am an old fashioned girl LOLLaughing

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Early in our relationship, my FI went to a strip club with his buddies. I started giving him a hard time about it, and his response was, “What? They’re strippers. It’s not like I’m going to fall in love with one of them.”

There was really no way to argue with that. If your dude is respectful (of you and of women in general), he’s not going to touch/have sex with a stripper, and it’s not like he’s going to fall in love with a stripper, so why worry?

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