Post # 1
SO my fiance my fiance just wants to golf during the day for his bachelor party and go to a cigar bar at night. The groomsmen want to go to a strip club because obviously it’s an excuse to go from their wives. My fiance is getting irritated with the guys because they keep saying it’s not about him but about what they want to do. I would be pissed if that’s what my girls said to me. I told my girls I want to go to some kind of dinner show or comedy club and dinner for mine. My fiance and I are not big drinkers and are 33 and 43 years old, so we didn’t want to go clubbing or bar hopping. Something fun with our friends and kinda low key. Anybody else feel the same way?
Post # 3
I’m 35 and I didn’t even have a bachelorette party. Didn’t see the need for a wild night. MIL and SIL threw me a lingerie themed shower and that was a fun day to spend with the girls. DH just went drinking at the hotel with his buddies the night before the wedding. He also got the same strip club requests from his friends couple times but he told them he had no interest, and if any of them pulled some crap like hiring a stripper he would leave. It is about HIM, not his friends.
Post # 4
im 26 and my FI is 31, i know im not in your age range, but not even i want to go bar hopping or clubbing. i think a nice dinner, or a comedy club or a murder mystery dinner etc… would be much more preferrable. I think my FI secretly wants to go to a strip club though, and i don’t care if he does, but right now he’s pretending he doesn’t want to. However, im sure he won’t protest too much should the goomsmen plan such an event.
but i did have a talk with my maids, because 2 of them are the bar scene types, but that’s just not me. so im hoping my other maid will keep the other two grounded in their plans that its about me and not them.
Post # 5
i’ll be 32 and I definitely do NOT want to have a wild night out! I was planning on my girls going away for one nught… I was thinking the seminole hard rock casino… we could spend a beautiful relaxing day at the pool… have an delicious dinner, then maybe go to a low key bar or comedy club (all located on the hotel property). I think it will be fun!
Post # 6
The groomsmen can always go to the strip clubs alone after your FI turns in for the night.
We are in our late 30s, and for my “bachelorette” party, we had margaritas at my sister’s house. She had someone come do pedicures for us, and also had someone come and give massages. It was fun, low key, and I was in bed by 11!
My husband spend the day on the shooting range with some friends, and then they had dinner at a steak house and bourbon in the hotel suite. They were up later than we were (he got back to the hotel at 2), but it was low key and perfect for him.
Post # 7
I am in my 30’s for my bachelorette party we are going to a “resort” town for the weekend. Do some shopping, little bit of touristy stuff, a nice dinner and yes we are even hitting the bars but nothing to wild.
FI for his more than likely will be golfing during the day and maybe a poker game afterwards.
Post # 8
I’m 33 and…well…we’re going to Vegas in June. 😉 I’ve never been but am excited to go with two of my close girlfriends including my MOH. Even still, we’re not going to do anything too wacky but more likely, witness other people being wacky. Seeing Cirque du Soleil, a jousting show at Excalibur, playing a little at the casino, and sipping drinks poolside are on the agenda. I’m grateful for this trip. I married once before and it was a very small civil ceremony, and I left the guy due to his increasing abusive behavior. Now I’ve a wonderful FI, having a big wedding and celebration with friends. Life is good.
Post # 9
Since when is a bachelor party not about the bachelor? That doesn’t even make any sense to me…..how annoying. OF COURSE IT’S ABOUT WHAT HE WANTS!!! I’m going through something similar with my own bachelorette party. Apparantely the in-laws think we should do it their way.
Post # 10
I am in a similar situation as you. I’m 33 and SO is 44. SO does not want to go to clubs or strip clubs etc. He doesn’t really drink. His best man does prob just to get out and away from his wife. SO has been pretty adamant and has been telling everyone what he wants and doesnt want. I think they may end up going to play put put golf (they love it, i dont get it:)) and have a giant hamburger somewhere. That would make SO really happy anyway. I’ve done the clubs and the Vegas, AC, and Cabo crazy trips and am just not into it anymore. A nice dinner with friends would be fun.
Post # 11
Thanks girls! It’s nice to see we’re all in the same boat:)