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Bachelorette Blunder

posted 8 months ago in Etiquette
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    nettedavid    11/07/09   Philadelphia Area

    Not the kind you're thinking! I received an email to my soon to be SIL's bachelorette party...the only problem was that the details were sketchy and there was no idea of the price. Due to the selected venue, my guesstimate was that it would be minimally $100 and could be upwards of $300 so I responded "maybe" and asked for more details which I never received. Apparently others were wary of the potential price and offered an alternative (party at a SIL's house) that the MOH declined AND THEN told the bride that "everyone wanted to do something else instead"

    Fast forward a month, out of 20+ that were invited, only 8 responded positively and only those 8 received the full details. I discovered today that the cost ended up at $35 (more than affordable!) but now bride has very hurt feelings and is mad at everyone who isn't going. (IMO, the MOH should have given more details AND kept the bride out of the planning, but that's water under the bridge now.) Unfortunately, there are no more tickets available so we can't join in late. We're a week away and I called the bride to explain that it was a misunderstanding, that we love her and no one ever would have wanted to hurt her feelings, that somehow we'd make this right,  and that she shouldn't worry about here B. party but focus on the wedding. Unfortunately, her MOH is't returning my calls or emails whenI reached out her to see if there's something else we can do (i.e before or after party) where others can join, dinner out, etc. I'd even be willing to do all the planning.  The bride isn't the type for wild/traditional bachelorette parties, there are too many of us for a spa, and due to financial restrictions we need to keep the price low. I'm looking for suggestions...on ideas or even if I should just butt out.

     
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    Keisha In Love    March 31, 2012   Chicago, Illinois

    Does she have any DIYs she could use help with?  Any special wedding theme?  If so, maybe you can plan a girls DIY day.  Decorate your home or another comfy space with the wedding colors- work with the bride and purchase the DIY supplies- print up directions- have the bride's other girlfriends  bring tasty potluck dishes and have a blast!

    I am an encore bride- and wasn't really comfortable with a shower- so my mom suggested a DIY wedding wreath making party instead. :)

     
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    Cornflakegirl    October 2, 2011  

    When you spoke with the bride directly, how'd she take it? Was she understanding? It might be nice to just take her out to brunch personally. That way you can still do your part to do something special with her without having to organize anything further and risk more miscommunication with the others!

     
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    StarshineishisBride    September 1, 2012   Brooklyn

    The 2 previous ideas sound very good.

    Maybe you could buy a card and ask the other ladies to put the $35 that they would have spent at the gathering and give the card as a "Honeymoon Gift".

     

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