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Technically, the other party-goers are supposed to pay; however, Vegas is a BIG bachelorette party as opposed to a night out at the bar.
I would never expect my girls to pay that much for me for a bachelorette party so I would suck it up and pay your share.
And as an example my girls took me to NYC for my bachelorette and I still paid my share of the hotel and travel costs.
Whose idea was it to go to Vegas? For me, personally, if it were my idea and I asked my BMs to plan the trip, I'd probably feel guilty not paying for my own way. BUT if it was their idea to take you to Vegas, then it should be up to them to pay your way.
That said, I'm a people pleaser, so even if it were their idea, I'd probably still pay to avoid the fight.
How many days are you going for? I dont think they should have to cover for your room for the entire time. I think maybe for one night (like if you have an official night that is your actual going out bachelorette party) but not for the entire time. Im assuming you made the choice or decided you want to go to Vegas so therefore you shouldnt expect for people to cover you for the whole trip. When my husband went to Vegas for his bachelor party he was there for 4 days and had one night that was his official bachelor party night. The other guys paid for his dinner and drinks that night but didnt pay for anything else (room) or any of that for the rest of the time. Thats the way I would think it should be done.
i just got back from there this weekend... BOY WAS IT EVENTFUL! the hotel wanted to send me to the hospital. lol!
it's you're bachelorette party... you're not suppose to pay for anything anything! my MOH made sure of this. but she left early on sunday and when we ate out to a buffet sunday for lunch, i had to pay for it. as far as transporation and hotel and the 2 nights of dinner, the girls all paid for it.
i was expecting to half everything with everyone, but my BM said that they are suppose to pay.
In my circle, we (the friends and BM's) always pay for the bride's bachellorette party.... all of it...even if it has been away for a weekend or something. The last one to get married did buy us all a round of shots though :)
I voted "other" because I think it depends. As a PP asked, who had the idea to go to Vegas? Did you help with much of the planning (how long, where you're staying, what you're doing, etc)? I am also going to Vegas with my girls, and I helped pick the hotel and threw out other ideas of things I'd love to do. I am definitely paying for my way to get there, my portion of the hotel (it's pretty expensive), my show ticket, and my food costs (although they may try to fight me on this one...I feel bad not paying though!). The one thing I do expect is that most (or all) of my drinks will probably be paid for, and I know they'll plan some surprise games/activities for us to do while we're there.
I would say that it also depends on how much it is all going to cost. Yes, it would be nice if they wanted to pay for you, but I also think for something as big as Vegas, you should expect to help with the costs.
I think the bride should pay her own way if it's an out of town trip. If it were in town (dinner and bar), then it's reasonable for the BM's to chip in and cover the bride. BM's are already paying a lot of money for the out of town trips, gifts, dress/attire, wedding trip.
I would say it depends on how your BMs are able to pay for it... are you more well-off than them? If so, it would certainly be nice to pay your fair share. Plus, as someone else mentioned, it depends a lot on whose idea it was!
We're doing Vegas for mine as well. I am paying for my flight and a portion of the room. I never expected them to cover my portion of the room because that is just too much in my opinion. Plus I was the one that picked a weekend getaway and a luxury room.
I do think that the girls will cover your dinner and drinks however as that is customery.
We did NOLA for mine and I paid for my hotel and airfare, and some of my meals. The girls covered some of them, but I felt that they had their own expenses that come with traveling and it wasn't right to make it more expensive, esp since the trip had been my idea, and it was more costly than some other options. In other cases, I think it would make sense to cover the bride's share.
if its an out of town trip i think the bride should pay her own way - i would be uncomfortable (and i think its unfair to others) to have a trip involving flights and accomodation on other peoples dime
I suggest you just pay for it and be gracious about it. My friends covered the cost of a very nice hotel for my bachelorette party (and all other bachelorette-related expenses except for my flight), but if they had asked me to chip in, I would have done so. Speaking generally, I don't think it's ever appropriate to say to someone, "I think you should pay for something for me, instead of me paying for it myself." If they have decided not to cover you themselves, it's only going to inspire a lot of negative feelings if you suggest otherwise. The one exception would be if you're in a financial position that prevents you from being able to pay.
Thanks girls for all the opinions!! and for not letting me turn into bridezilla!! :) Maybe I am being unreasonable. It was a group decision to go to Vegas and I have given my opinions on some of the planning. Just that I want to stay on the strip and lay by the pool but I said it doesn't have to be a fancy room or anything. Also, I suggested we go Thursday-Saturday so it will be a little cheaper. When my other friends got married we always paid for everything for them so that's why I was thinking that, but it wasn't Vegas so it makes sense that I should pay.
I would hope that if it were your BMs' idea that they would split the cost to cover you, since you did not make the location decision. I would expect that the bride would pay for food, drink, etc. cost, but at least the hotel should be covered by the BMs.
If your bachelorette party is a dinner party, then by all means the BMs should probably pay for you. But when we get into flight-hotel-multidayvacation territory, it's unreasonable not to expect to pay for stuff, especially if this is not a surprise flight-hotel-multidayvacation thing.
i thought i wanted a vegas bachelorette party too but i'm not sure anymore. i was just there two weekends ago for my future sis-in-law's bachelorette party and i'm going back next week to look at wedding venues.
but if i do end up with a bachelorette party in vegas, i would pay my share and probably for the items on my must haves list. i want a suite where all the girls can share, a cabana at encore or tao, bottle service at xs, and a spa day. my girls will most likely pay for some things but i don't expect them to pay for my share.
i think it really depends on the individual circumstances. at one point my lil sis was deciding to go to grad school so as a poor grad student, i wouldn't expect her to pay for me. i also have a few unemployed BMs and i know it is a stretch for them to be part of my wedding.
I personally don't think you should be asking others to pay your way. If they OFFERED that's different but if they did not offer, I think you should pay...
the fact that they are all taking the time out and paying for flights there is already a lot for them. you should definitely pay your share.
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So for my bachelorette we are going to Vegas and my MOH is expecting me to pay part of the hotel and the flight. I understand the flight but I thought the other people going are suppossed to cover the brides room? She is not paying for all of it herself everyone else is pitching in. Now I feel like a b**ch for asking if I am suppossed to pay too? What do you guys think? How do I handle this? Am I being unreasonable for thinking they should cover my share of the room? Were your bachelorette's covered?