Post # 1
I know very little about by shower and bachelorette, but the one thing I did have a say in and decide is that for the bachelorette party I would like it to be just me and my bridal party, very small and intimate. I did this for 2 reasons – 1, I rarely get to see some of my bridal party members and I thought it would be nice to get to spend that time with them and give them my undivided love and attention. 2, it will really cut back on their expenses…being a Bridesmaid or Best Man is sooo expensive. But I wonder, is that really weird, not to invite others and are all my friends going to be super offended? Is what I’m doing ‘wrong’? Anyone else doing it this way?
Post # 3
Like you, I really have no idea how all of this works. From what I’ve read, the Maid/Matron of Honor plans it and is supposed to charge all of the people attending a small admission (like $10 or something). That money goes toward the bride’s activities, drinks, etc for the night. Or if you are staying in a hotel it would cover the cost of that.
(Someone please correct me if I’m wrong.)
So, since my Maid/Matron of Honor has the best of intentions yet is struggling financially I decided to invite more people so that a lot of it wouldn’t be on her head to pay for. If I invited just my bridesmaids there would only be 4 of them and the per person cost would be higher.
In your situation, it’s your wedding so please do whatever you want! I think your bridesmaids will appreciate that you thought of them and no one should be offended at all for not getting invited. People will understand, especially if its your friends.
Post # 4
It really just depends on what you want. My Bachelorette Party will include more than just my Bridesmaids, but not nearly as many people as my Main Shower (75). There are some friends that aren’t Bridesmaids that I want to share that time with too.