Post # 1
My friend of 2 years is getting married. Her wedding is in another state, and my husband and I are both going. This cost is quite a bit of money; flight, rental car, hotel at wedding venue etc.
Neither one of us are in the wedding, but were both invited to bachelorette/bachelor parties. Both were in cities other than where we live.
Neitger one of us are going to said parties, but I am feeling like a bad friend. Part of the decision is financial, the other personal. Out of the friends attending from where I live (all friends of mine) I am the only married one. All bridesmaids are married, but I have never met any of them. I feel between those I know, this will turn into a singles party.
What does everyone think? I feel like I am passed the partying phase in my life, but feel guilty for not going.
Post # 3
@swimchick: Don’t feel guilty whatsoever. I don’t think it should be expected of you to come but hopefully it’s more along the lines of, “you’re a great friend and want you to know the invite is there if you can make it” kind of thing.
Wish them a great time and say you wish you could attend.
Post # 4
@swimchick: Hey, if you cant go….ya cant go! Dont feel bad. If you really really feel like an awful person send a card that says you would love to go but cannot…maybe put a $20 in it and say its for a few drinks on you.
Post # 5
@swimchick: It is an invitation, not a summons. If you cannot go for whatever reason you like, you can decline. Don’t feel badly.
Post # 6
Don’t feel guilty about not going! If you don’t want to/can’t afford it just don’t. If you’re still feeling guilty, contact the MOH and ask her if you can contribute anything, like buying her sash or an embarasing tiara or something. Send it with a little note telling her to have fun and that you wish her all the best. Cheap, thoughtful, and she’ll know you care even if you can’t be there.