Bachelorette Parties

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Does the bride pay for herself on multi day bachelorette parties?
    Yes : (12 votes)
    29 %
    No : (11 votes)
    26 %
    She contributes but not for the entire cost (explain below) : (19 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    858 posts
    Busy bee

    I guess it would depend on financial situation of most…

    A whole weekend of all expenses covered i think is a little extravegent. I get the one night out, for sure, but whole weekend that is too much. I would say be prepared to cover for yourself.

    Post # 4
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would not go on a multi day bachelorette trip. Seems a little excessive and unnecessary. If a bride wanted one I would expect her to cover her own expenses, but if her BMs planned it and surprised her they should cover her costs. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We went to Jamaica for mine and I paid for myself.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @AOriver:  We’re doing 4 days in Florida at my MOH’s beach house, so lodging is free but everyone is paying their own plane ticket, including me.

    Post # 8
    Member
    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I was invited on a weekend hen do – sadly I couldn’t go, but it worked out as paying £30 each so the bride went for free. This included meals, drinks, hotel & flights. Not too bad, and we were all willing to contribute. 

    Post # 9
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    1287 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @AOriver:  I HOPE my friends let me pay for my portion, but I think they will fight me on it.  I will try to do what I can though. For me, it is an internal battle I have with people spending money on me, even if they want too because I feel BAD!!

    We are doing one night on the town, dinner/drinks/dancing/hotel.  I know my sister, MOH, got the hotel room with her points, plus two more for overflow, via her points.  So, that is covered.  Dinner and drinks, please let me pay me way!!!!!  We shall see though 🙂

    Post # 11
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    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I have been to two parties that were cabin rentals. In both instances, the bride wasn’t in the rental plit, but she brought some drinks, snacks, and food.

    In both cases, the rental was less than $40 per person for both nights, and that includes their “portion” of the bride’s expenses.

    I think the bride should contribute SOMETHING and if it is really expensive, she should be contributing more.

    Post # 12
    Member
    8593 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We went to Vegas (their suggestion).  I paid for my own costs other than our special dinner night, they paid for my dinner/drinks.  That’s the only bachelorette party I’ve been on though that was a trip though.  The other ones were only one night/overnight things.

    Post # 13
    Member
    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @AOriver:  wowzer yeah I wouldn’t pay that much, nor would I ever dream of asking anyone to pay that much for me!

    Post # 14
    Member
    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @AOriver:  We did a cruise for my friends party.  We had 10 girls and we split the cost of the cruise evenly as a gift to the bride.  It ended up being $30 per girl (we live close to port).  The bride was responsible for anything else.  I think it depends on the financial situation of the group, how well you know each other, etc.  It worked out very well and everyone was happy.

    Post # 15
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    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I planned a weekend bachelorette for my best friend when I was her MOH. We grouped together the cabin, gas and groceries for the weekend and she pitched in on that with everyone else. But when we went out to dinner and drinking we paid for her dinner and drinks split between us. I’m sure she would have paid for herself if we hadn’t volunteered. But something strikes me as wrong about the bride paying for her own drinks. Not bad, just doesn’t seem right to me.

    Post # 16
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    405 posts
    Helper bee

    @AOriver:  I would pay my share no matter how long the bachelorette party was.

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