Pregnant Bridesmaid Bails Last Minute on Bachelorette Party – ADVICE PLEASE!

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Take the money. Itis her own fault and raising the cost for yourself or everyone else isn’t fair.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Take the money and tell her that if you find someone else who might be interested in going in her place, you’ll refund the money she gave you.   

After all, she offered the cash.  Tell her you appreciate the kindness and how bad you’d feel if everyone had to pay extra because of her backing out.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did you book non-refundable hotel rooms? Often you can cancel up to 24 hrs in advance with no penalty.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

RedWine13:  I would give the girl a break. Honestly, if a pregnant bridesmaid dropped out the day of I would probably still understand. When she insisted on going she may have not realized how she was going to be feeling at the time, etc. At least she gave u a months notice AND offered to pay the rest. She obviously feels bad and is willing to do the right thing. If she wants to pay take the money, cuz yes she could have just said no originally but shit happens and u shouldn’t necessarily have to lose out because of that. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Take the money. They agreed to go and should honor the agreement if payment at least. It’s not fair to everyone else to pay more when it wouldn’t have been necessary if no one bailed. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t blame you at all for taking the money! I sympathize with he reasoning and honestly don’t blame her…but she should have been up front from the beginning. It shouldn’t be your responsibility to pick up the slack.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

People do realise that things can change during a pregnancy right? 2 months ago everything could have been fine and now this poor girl might have been told she should limit what she is doing. Noone knows what might actually be going on and it is no ones business but the parents. They get to decide what is right for the mother and child during the pregnancy. Sheesh I would hate to have friends that thought like this.

 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

RedWine13:  With or without her, you still need 2 rooms for 10 or 9 people, (frankly I think you need at least 3. I’m quite sure the hotel is not going to be aware that you have that many people in each room). So her dropping out isn’t actualy costing you any extra money.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

RedWine13:  sorry I must’ve read it wrong, it sounded like u were mad. I totally understand ur frustration with the situation, though. if I planned this nice weekend it would def be frustrating to have so many ppl bail :/ I do think it is her responsibility to pay the rest of what she owes, but if she didn’t offer or want to, I prob wouldn’t go through the trouble of trying to get it. Luckily she offered  🙂 idt u should have to take the loss! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Since she offered, I’d take the money and offer to refund it if u can find someone else. Being a pregnant gal myself, I can say a lot can happen in 2 months.  Hell, I felt great last week and this week I feel like shit!

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