Post # 1
So I am having an issue with my bridesmaids/bachelorette party. I am really trying not to be a bridezilla, but I just cant help feeling hurt. So far, only 3 of my 7 bridesmaids can come to my bachelorette party, which I am having in my home city, so everyone can stay for free/some can drive, etc. But not every bridesmaid can come – or has even RSVP’ed or responded to my emails. I just can’t help feeling hurt because they are all lifelong friends – and I have traveled to several of their bachelorette parties – and have had to fly/pay an arm and a leg. It’s a tough situation – because you don’t want to tell people that you wil be upset if they aren’t there – but then I don’t want to carry around resentment toward my best friends on my wedding day.I just want them to WANT to be there, does that make sense?
Worth noting – some of my bridesmaids have children – is is wrong to want/expect them to come? I have attended their bachelorette parties, weddings, wedding showers, baby showers, baby’s first birthdays…
Sometimes I feel like when you get married in life, your wedding isn’t as high of a priority to some. Anyone else have this issue? Should I suck it up or is it ok to be upset? Help me!
Post # 3
@Maybride2006: I know not all of my bridesmaids will be able to come to my showers and/or bachelorette party. I actually called one who lives out-of-state before we sent out the invites telling her I understood if she couldn’t come, because it is expensive.
Honestly, life gets in the way of things, especially once people start having kids. Its clearly not because they don’t like you or don’t want to be there! Just enjoy yourself with your friends that are able to come 🙂
Post # 4
@Maybride2006: Feelings are never wrong. You are entitled to feel the way you feel.
The reality is that when your girlfriends marry before you and have children before you get married, it is harder for them to attend your events.
It doesn’t mean they care less about you. Life just gets in the way.
Your wedding will never be as big a priority to others as it is to you-and that applies to all of us.
Carry on with your plans and enjoy the time with those who are able to attend rather than focus on those who aren’t.
Post # 5
You guys are right… thanks for the advice! 🙂 I will try to not be upset. After all they will all be there the day of which is the most important.