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    Miss Burgundy    May 28, 2010   Southern California

    Ugh...here goes.

    A few weeks ago, my two Maids of Honor wanted to start planning my bachelorette party. I met up with one of them, we ran through a couple ideas, selected a weekend, and started planning the party. She assured me that she'd already been talking to my other MOH (who hasn't really been involved in any of the wedding planning, she's always too busy or something) and so they discussed these party ideas and potential weekends. I decided my favorite idea was a two day party: one day, a Friday toward the end of the month at Disneyland, and then a part 2 party in San Diego the following day. The MOH I met with had me send email addresses to her and her co-MOH so they could start sending out evites to my friends. I was so excited that I told everyone what our plan was and what our slated dates were.

    Well, today I met up with the same MOH who I'd initially met up with to plan this and she told me that we have to cancel/reschedule the party. Apparently her co-MOH can't make it, and actually cannot do anything on Fridays, so this means that we can't do a two-part party with one part in Disneyland and expect this girl to come. She felt guilty because apparently she was told this girl couldn't make it to anything on Fridays but forgot, and she was really upset that she wouldn't get the full experience of my bachelorette party.

    I talked to both MOHs, and they proposed some other ideas, but honestly I'm just really bummed. The entire idea of my party is shot unless the one MOH who can't make it on Friday just doesn't go that day, but she's really upset about not being able to make it (she has classes on Fridays). On one hand I feel like a diva for wanting to keep my original idea and not compromise for the one who can't make it, but on the other hand none of the ideas they proposed sound anywhere near as fun or great as the one we had and I just can't get excited about them. What's the point of having a party for me if we can't even do what I want?

    I'm just not sure what to do or think, and it's really putting a damper on my whole day.

     
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    Circus Peanut    October 9, 2010  

    Probably a stupid question because I'm sure you've already thought of it, but why not just move it to Saturday/Sunday?

     
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    Miss Burgundy    May 28, 2010   Southern California

    We can't do a party on Sunday night because everyone has work on Monday. It would be a bad idea to plan to do Disneyland Sunday and the "party" on Saturday because it's assumed everyone will be hung over on Sunday and probably won't want to go to Disneyland.

     
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    soontobewalsh    09/18/10   Boston

    Can the MOH that can't make it meet you all later? I understand that she won't get the "full experience" but she could still make some portion of the day/evening no? What about meeting her for drinks after you leave the park?

    This is tough but it is your party after all. If you truly want to go to Disney then I would let her know that, offer for her to meet up later, and let her know she'll be missed. It's not like she can't make one Friday, she can't make any so she is limiting time available and she'll still be able to party on Saturday with you.

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    I think it's tough to have people get together for two nights in a row.  If she can't do Fridays, she kinda can't and there's really no way around that.

    Can you just do the Disney thing without her and have her come to the party on Saturday?

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    Can you double-up on Saturday - Disney in the morning, party at night?

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    @kittyachi: oooh, good idea!

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    My sister's Bach party (I was the MOH) was 2 nights and I could only make it to 1. The first night was more low key and only for the few people who could make it, the 'real' party night was Saturday. I think two nights is a lot, even though the guys seem to make a month out of it, but girls for some reason like to keep it to 1 night.

     
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    stephinPA    October 29, 2010   Reading, PA

    Or can you spread the party out over two weekends.  One Saturday do Disneyland and the following Saturday do San Diego? 

     

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