Bachelorette Party Guestlist

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite FSIL? Or rather...do I have to?
    Yes : (17 votes)
    30 %
    No : (40 votes)
    70 %
    Other (explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Nope, invite only the people you want to celebrate. The guest list should overlap with your wedding guest listñ but doesn’t have to be every female guest.  ILs not required.

    Post # 6
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    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    You do not have to invite every female attending your wedding but everyone invited has to be a wedding guest. If you do not want here there don’t invite her.

    Post # 7
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    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @BellJarBride:  I would invite her if she would enjoy being there. Don’t rely too much on gossip to form your opinions of your future family members.

    Post # 9
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    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @BellJarBride:  Eh, still not worth the drama.  Bad feelings between a mother and daughter can get forgiven and forgotten a lot faster than bad feelings between new sister in laws.

    Post # 10
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    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I agree, thst you dhould invite the people you want to celebrate with. If you know you won’t have a good time or that there are ill feeling between you two, then don’t bother.

    Post # 11
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    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2005

    @BellJarBride:  I wouldn’t worry about inviting her. The bachelorette party is not a formal wedding event. As long as you invite her to all the formal stuff (bridal shower ect…) then I think you’re totally fine.

    In my experience though she will probobly decline. I had to invite my FSIL to the bachelorette party (she is in the wedding party) and we get along okay but she dosn’t necessarily like me (my fiance and I think it’s a jealous thing since she wants to get married and she does talk about me behind my back, calling me controling and stuff like that) but my MOH invited her and she immediately declined. Which worked out for me. I get to be the bigger person and still don’t have to spend time with her. Win-win. 

    Post # 12
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    102 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I was just “dealing” with this same scenario! Though in my case its my future brother in law’s wife. My FI feels like he needed to have his SIL invited to my bachelorette so he asked my sister the other day. My sister has already planned everything and I really dont know who was invited besides my bridal party (may only be the bridal party for all I know). My sister told my FI that everything has been planned already and sorry. I don’t have much of a relationship with her and the backstory on her and my FBIL is one for another board.

    I honestly, didn’t care she wasn’t invited (she’ll be included in day of the wedding stuff – ie getting ready), but her presence there would not have mattered to me either way- I say go with your gut, stick with it, and don’t feel bad. 

    Post # 13
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    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldn’t invite anyone who your not close with. Or she might end up inviting herself just like my FMIL did!

    Post # 14
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    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

    @BellJarBride:  You don’t have to. But, I think that you should really consider the situation. You’ve already heard that she said not nice things about you. Are you willing to just let the relationship go or do you want to try to strengthen it? If you don’t invite her, there’s a good chance there will be drama and the relationship will become worse. If you do invite her, you may be able to connect a little and establish at least a friendly relationship. 

    Post # 16
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    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

    @BellJarBride:  :(Well that sucks. I’m sorry that you’re kind of between a rock and a hard place. Sounds like there’s not much you can do about it:( I hate reading about situations like this on the bee.

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