Post # 1
So I need more advice, what else is new, lol. My FSIL was originally my MOH but we promoted her and my two brothers into being our officiants. My FSIL still wants to be the one to plan the parties since she still views herself as the MOH kind of I guess.
The thing is she is in college and has never been to a wedding or wedding related party before (expect for when she was a small child). Her ideas are to go clubbing/bar hopping in Boston where she goes to college. I am not at all into that kind of scene and would be like pulling teeth for me as I tend to not do well in that scene. She says if I want to have a different kind of party I need to give her ideas.
I don’t have any friends who are married yet and the mother’s have completely different tastes then me. I’m thinking of suggesting a tea party style bridal shower, because I love what I’ve seen on the Bee for those! I am stuck trying to figure out ideas for a bachelorette party. I’ve suggested bowling or staying home & doing at home spa treatments while eating good food & watching movies but neither idea went over well. She’s still saying that it needs to be fun and so we need to go out and do something. I’m at a loss and would love some ideas.
**(Please don’t tell me to stand up to her because I’ve already stood up against the clubbing/bar hopping & have said I would leave if thats what she throws, but I don’t want to come off as being too much of a bridezilla when she’s the one throwing the party. I am racking my brain for ideas to make a compromise and could really use some help!)**
Post # 3
I think bowling would be fun! *I thought this before I’d gotten to that part of your post :-)* It can still be a great time, an easy event to do co-ed if you’d like, and there are often late night black light loud music lanes that are going on with drink specials, etc. So people can party as much as they’d like.
Maybe see if this will be a compromise for her? You could go out for a nice dinner with the gals, maybe meet up w/ FI and his crew for a fun bowling contest/party/night out, and then go separate ways again for girls’ night with snacks and sappy movies for a sleep over.
Post # 4
you pretty much took all my ideas – spa, girly home stuff, watching movies etc. sounds like she wants to go out though. maybe dinner at a fancy restaurant? then going to some lounge or place to get drinks. where you can get all dressed up and be classy. doesn’t have to be bar hopping/clubbing. i really liked what i did for my 30th bday. we went to a place where there was not really a dance floor, but was playing party music. there were couches to sit on around a table for our drinks. was lots of fun with all the girls. the lighting was tinted red so it made for a nice atmosphere.
also, there is also going to a real spa to get massages and pedicures/manicures.
last idea i have is what i would have wanted if i was having a bachelorette (but i chose not to), but a few years ago i would have liked to have even done the stripper lesson thing. i did it at another bachelorette party i went to and it super fun! but maybe not if you aren’t into dancing.
Post # 5
What about doing a girls day at some wineries? Are there any good country areas out by you? You could always rent a limo (depending how many are going) and just do wine tastings at a bunch of different local wineries?
Post # 6
One of my friends had a bachelorrette party that looked like so much fun (I didnt go, it was in another country) but I saw pictures and it looked awesome.
They made it “Celebrity” themed, so each girl dressed up as a celebrity.. and I saw the costumes and it was so funny and creative.. it looked like they had a blast..
They did go out clubbing and … but you can also do a party at home, where all the girls come dressed up as a celebrity and you can do bachelorrette games, go our for dinner.. or have dinner in, and keep celebrating! you can get creative with games there, maybe “the girl that best represents the celebrity throughout the day” and she gets a prize or soemthing..
Post # 7
For my Bachelorette party we are starting w/happy hour at a restaurant. Then to a “Dave and Busters” type place for bowling and games. There is a bar there so the people that wanna drink can and the those who dont wont have to. This way, those who arent drinking wont feel left out/bored like they would if we were bar hopping, and those that wanted to go out can still get their drink on! Win win situation! : )
Post # 8
We’re going to the beach for Memorial day weekend with girls only. It’ll be a lot more relaxed and there will be a ton of things to do as a large group and as smaller groups, if we want to. Not sure when your wedding is, but there are a ton of places that have “bars” along with other things (like bowling/games) that would be really fun for everyone. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter what your FSIL wants to do since YOU’RE getting married.