Bachelorette party invitee dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
3156 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@leenh78:  Personally, I’d just let her miss this one.  Let her know that you understand that she can’t make it and that you’re looking forward to spending time with her at the wedding.  

I caught wind that a few friends of mine were planning on trying to pay for my flight to Vegas once and I was PISSED.  There is a difference between not having money to do something and CHOOSING not to do it.  She may have the money for it but doesn’t want to spend it that way. 

It’s a very generous offer, but I think I’d skip it.

Post # 4
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Why not just ask her, you say she is a long time, good friend so you should be able to talk to her.  “Hey friend I know you are curentlly struggling right now so if you are worried about the financial side of my bacheloretty party don’t be because we want you there and will take care of it.  But if you don’t feel comfortable with that or no longer want to come, maybe you and I can do lunch or dinner one day so we can spend time together.  Just let me know what you want to do so we can make plans accordingly.  Can’t wait to see you!!!”

Post # 6
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3156 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@leenh78:  And talking about her finances.  I think that’s what got me the most.  That’s between my hubs and i!

Post # 7
Member
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@leenh78:  I would invite her and when she RSVPs, let whoever is getting those can offer at that point…. so it’s not like people were “talking behind her back”. I’m currenly mostly unemployed and I think that’s how I’d like it handled. 

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