Bachelorette Party – Is this too much?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

that is too much money- really about 100 is all that should be spent on an in town night out.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I don’t know. Between bridal shower gifts, wedding gifts, bridesmaid dresses Ect. Yes $160 can be alot to spend For many.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It all depends on your friends and their lives – in college? Recent graduates? College (or other) debt? Pay grade in their careers? Weddings / events of their own to pay for soon? Children?

I’d throw out 2-3 ideas, including budgets, to your friends to see who’s interested in what. Then you can pick an event you want to do that your friends can afford.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Jeeze, I’d say even 100 bucks is a lot, 160 is way too much. My bachelorette party cost everyone 30 dollars total. Five people, 30 bucks, dinner not included (Was gifted by my mother, so that’s an external circumstance).

So, I’d say 160 is too much, yes.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@NewYorkLady:  I don’t think that’s too much money, bit depends on the plans I guess. If all these girls agreed to the plans then backed out due to costs it’s annoying. Obviously thinhs cost money, I wouldn’t agree to a fancy restaurant and hotel room (for example) if I wasn’t prepared to share that type of expense.if the plan is strippers and drinks, that’s way too much. A whole day thing, soa pkg or something I would expect that amount. If I attend a bachelorette I fully expect to help cover the bride’s way.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Seattle, WA

Did they know about the cost prior to yesterday? If no then yeah, that is way too much for this short of notice.  I’m sorry it happened this way! I hope you still have a fun night.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

$160 doesn’t seem expensive to me, assuming it’s for dinner, drinks, club, and maybe a limo/party bus – plus for my good friend who’s getting married?  Of course I would go. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@NewYorkLady:  I don’t think it’s too much at all. For my night out, between the limo, hotel room, dinner, door covers and drinks, we each spent around $200. I’m sorry, but a friend who’s known about it for months had time to plan and save money

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would be able to swing it if I knew the cost at least a few months in advance. If it was too expensive, I most certainly wouldn’t back out without proposing a few lower-cost alternatives. If a lower-cost option couldn’t be agreed upon, I’d plan something special 1:1 with the bride to celebrate and help her de-stress before the wedding. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@NewYorkLady:  I would back out.  Sorry.  I don’t have an extra $160 lying around to shell out.  Bachelorettes have gotten too elaborate and expensive imo.  I remember the days when everyone would chip in $20-30 to rent a limo and then buy your own drinks as well as one or two for the bride.  Whomever was planning the party should have tried to discuss the budget with everyone ahead of time before making plans that cost over $50 per person.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry! Unless you were my very best friend in the world, I wouldn’t spend $160 for a bachelorette.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

It would be too much for me.

I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US, I’m a heavy drinker, and I can afford (what I consider) extravagance on a night out – and I expect to spend around $50-$70. Even with the bride’s share, that’s HALF of what your bridesmaids are asking people to spend.

I would be bummed too to have people backing out of my bachelorette party – but I would be blaming the bridesmaids, not the folks backing out.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Eh, it’s kind of a lot. My girls are only paying for their dinner and we’re going to a reasonably priced restaurant. I made sure to be involved in the planning for this very reason. I have 9 girls coming and they knew up front all the costs.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If they said they couldn’t afford it, then it’s too much.  If you really want your friends to be there, I would try to adjust your plans so more people can participate.

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