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I could really use some third party opinions from people who have nothing personal interest in the matter. I am the maid of honor for my BEST friends wedding and I'm in charge of the planning the bachelorette party... She has like 7 bridesmaids total, all of which are high school friend(emies) There are clicks in this group of ppl and I created a FB group for the bridesmaids to get input and feed back about my ideas for this last bash and NO ONE has replied to me except two of the girls who are in constant contact with me and the bride. There are two bridesmaids who's main concern is another friends wedding later in the year. Our bride wanted to do a weekend getaway to wine taste and the cheapest package that I could find would run everyone at about $400/person but we would have to split up 4 to a room. With the total amount of ppl invited to her party being 14 (not anticipating everyone to go) but not even the bridesmaids want to go!!! they don't want to spend the night away from home for one day, or even two which makes its impossible to find a house or hotel, all have a minimum night stay for a party of our size. It took me having to have another bridesmaid posting in the group that we need input for us to finally get a response from someone who said NO, that's too much money. So I have taken our weekend wine tasting down from 2 days at $350/person to ONE DAY TIME event- renting out a place and having the owner come in and make us breakfast and bottomless mimosas and renting a really nice limo for 6 hours to take us around wine tasting and it would be $160/person... and THAT is TOO MUCH? I don't think that $160 is too much to ask for a bachelorette party! They want to go cheaper and start cutting more things out and I just feel like they're more worried about what they can afford or what they're willing to pay than actually caring about the bride and her one bachelorette party! (knock on wood) I have never planned one, I finally stood my ground and said NO I'm not going cheaper or cutting things out and if you want to pay less we will cut the time down to 4 hours and I'll pay for the bride so it's 120/person. Can someone please tell me if that is an unreasonable amount to ask? That doesn't even include an decorations or a cake or any extra spending money. I am getting so frustrated and mad that they don't want to do this or that, even though it's about the bride and what she wants. It's not like they can't afford it either, they're all going on a weekend get away soon just because, and they're always going out to clubs and bars and to dinners together. So please don't think that it's not because money is tight, it's poor balancing of finances and priorities. I guess I'm just asking what is a valid reasonable amount to ask of everyone to spend at a minimum for your best or one of your best friends?

the problem is is that no one has a car that is going to fit the bridal party 8 including the bride and the family and cousins invited to the bachelorette party (14 ppl total), and no one is going to want to drive if they have been drinking. & the wine tasting places we go to you pay an entrance fee (covered in our limo tour) and they only give you enough to taste, but by the end of the day... that is too much to drive. The breakfast we are having is bottomless mimosas only and a whole thing of food, all paid for. Anything else they want they have to pay for out of pocket and isn't covered.

the Bride wanted to go to Napa Valley which is like 3 hours away from here, so instead, now I have to local wineries... smaller, much closer to home with in 30 minutes from where we live.  I found a restaraunt here in town that has a variety of wine, I know the owner and am getting a STEAL on the owner coming in personally and opening in the morning, when they only open at 2 pm usually.... It's 20/person for bottomless mimosas & breakfast buffet (eggs, potatoes, sausage, pastries & fruit) the entire place opened for us only & that includes the tip/gratuity- we wouldn't find a better deal for a party of 14 anywhere even if I cleaned the dishes. Keep in mind, we live in CA... so prices already suck out here.