- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
First time Bridesmaid here! I wound up volunteering to plan my Bride’s Bachelorette Party. I thought her Matron of Honor was planning something, but she is bat-shit crazy (Bride said that herself; she’s family though so she’s allowed to) and is making life miserable for the Bride and her family at the moment. I found out last minute that nothing was being planned and I wound up offering because I felt bad.
I’ve never planned a party before – ever. I’m really kind of introverted and socializing isn’t my strong suit. My Bride was awesome and gave me some suggestions to go on. We’re planning on doing dinner at one of her favorite restaurants and then drinks with wedding-themed movies at her apartment after (restaurant is right down the road). I already reserved the restaurant (they said I could call back anytime to change the number of people attending once we got responses) and chose the date (very early next month; it would have been planned sooner except the Bride took a while to get back to me regarding the guest list). The Bride and two of the BMs have already been informed and will all be attending. I plan on calling or emailing the rest of the guests this week to let them know they are invited and what the plans are.
I found a drink recipe that she would probably like (Cranberry Cosmo, Cranberry Juice, and Sprite), but have no idea what to call it. I don’t know anything about Bachelorette themed party games and I know for a fact that she would be completely embarassed by X-rated stuff (plus, her mom and mother-in-law are both going to be invited).
How do I make this fun? Would it be a good idea to have some sort of games or activities other than the movies at her apartment? If we’re doing dinner earlier then should I buy some sort of snacks to have with drinks (and what kind of snacks)? What about decorations for her apartment? And, with the dinner portion, do people normally pay for themselves at Bachelorette parties? I’ve never been to one before and don’t have the money to pay for everyone’s dinner, though I will be taking on whatever financial costs there are for the drinks and movie portion by myself (I also don’t mind helping out one of the out of state BMs ; she is out of work at the moment and is short on funds, so I offered to help if she needed it). And do I need to inform people that they need to pay for their own dinners at the restaurant or will most people know that already?
I’d appreciate any help you guys can give me. I’ve been getting stressed out thinking about this and thinking about having to call people because I’m that introverted and I really don’t know what I’m doing.
Edit: Also, how much food and drinks should I plan to buy for the drinks and movie portion? There should be about 15 people invited, but I have no clue how many will be attending. Is there a good way to estimate?