Post # 1
So this is going to sound crazy,but I have never been to a bachelorette party. My mom and I have been going back and forth about transportation. Who pays? Just bridal party or do all guests chip in? Would you find it rude to get an invite like this?
We are going to a comedy club and my mom has to give them her credit card number for the reservation and I don’t want her to get stuck paying for everyone.
Post # 3
Bachelorette parties it is common for all the girls attending paying their way and the bridal party pays YOUR way! So no I would not at all be offended at that invite – I would actually appreciate it because then I know all costs up front!
Sounds like a BLAST by the way!
Post # 4
I agree with Future Mrs. Martin. I would expect to pay my way whether I was in a bridal party or just attending as a friend (though I would also pay my portion of the Bride’s way if I were in the bridal party). I think that is a great invite – and then no money surprises to everyone who wants to come but would not be aware of the costs. It would also prevent the awkward “please give us $X to pay for your way” questions at the party or after the fact. Sounds like you are going to have an awesome party! Have fun!
Post # 5
It isn’t rude at all. We just had my friend’s bachelorette this weekend, and I think all the girls appreciated my openness with how much everything would cost. A few of the girls were coming in from out of town, and I didn’t want to scare them with city prices 😉 Also, we had all the guests chip in for the bride. There were only 7 girls besides the bride, and 4 were in the bridal party, and 2 were good friends that would have chipped in anyway.
We took public transit, and 4 $10 dollar cab rides. Me and one of my friends loaded up our metrocard with money, and just let the girls swipe those, and then whoever got the money out the fastest paid for the cab. They all paid their own way to/from the hotel we were staying at.
Post # 6
I think girls (guests or otherwise) expect to be paying to participate. I recently went to a Hen’s night where they had hired a party bus and we went to various clubs. We all chipped in $50 and had an absolute blast! I don’t think it’s rude, I think it’s the done thing. If you’re worried about how you’re going to word it on your invites you could get your bridal party to spread the word that people will be expected to contribute – especially if it’s for transport, people are usually happy to pay their way.
Post # 7
i think it’s fine, but my moh sent out something similar and actually most of the girls got pissed.. like really? she was just trying to let everyone know it’s not a free ride!
Post # 8
hm, I should add maybe, that I didn’t send any of the cost info with the invite. I actually did a facebook invite at first, and included that info in the text of the event invite. I sent a paper invite to everyone later, when I sent one to the bride.
Post # 9
I just planned a bachelorette for my friend. We sent out a regular invite, but then sent out an email a few weeks later, saying we had a limo and asking folks to chip in for it…we gave them a suggested amount. And then everyone just paid for their own covers and drinks.
I felt bad about asking for any of the guests to chip in, and would have preferred if the bridal party could have paid for the whole limo bill, but none of us could afford that. Personally, I think many of my friends would fine 35$ and 45$ options pretty pricey, especailly after some of them had flown in, bought a gift, etc. I got an earful as the organizer about cost!
But if you are asking guests to contirbute, I would let them know up front and give them a high estimate…maybe the day of if enough guests come, each guest could be refunded 10$ or something. It’s better than what happened to us. We did not have as many as expected, so we were scrounging for money the night of – stresful and kind of tacky.
Post # 10
also, really nice invite!