Post # 1
I’m a bridesmaid in my bestfriend’s wedding which is Oct 11. She lives in Florida, but the wedding is in Ohio. All the bridesmaids and family live in Ohio. She is coming home in June for a friend’s wedding. This will be the only time (that she knows of) that she will be home before the wedding. She might be able to come home again in August or even just the weekend before her wedding, but that is unlikely and unpredictable. She doesn’t know what her job situation will look like in the future.
All that being said, we are trying to have a bachelorette party for her. She isn’t getting in until midnight or later that Friday in June. Saturday is our friend’s wedding, and Sunday is her shower. The idea was pitched that we have the bachelorette party after the wedding. Problem is, the wedding doesn’t end until 10pm. Is that too late to have a party? Especially since we might be tired from doing wedding stuff since 2pm.
Post # 2
Personally I wouldn’t schedule it after the friends wedding. If I were the bride I would just feel super awkward to count down the time for the wedding to end so that you can head out and celebrate me…
I get that a bachelorette party is a really important thing for a lot of people, but in this case she has kind of painted herself into a corner – having her entire bridal party at a different location and coming in so late for the weekend in June. I would try to schedule something low key right before the wedding instead, assuming that she won’t show up the day of the event.
Post # 3
I would hope she can make it in August or the weekend before the wedding. I don’t think it’s a good idea to plan anything after a wedding. Can you hit up the bars? Yeah. Would it be weird (and a bit disrespectful) to host her bachelorette party? Yes.
Will she be in town the Thursday before the wedding. Both my sister and I had/will have our bachelorette parties 2 days before the wedding and it workwd out great. That’s a better option than starting at 10 pm after a day of wedding festivities.
Post # 4
eocenia: I should have mentioned, if we do it the night of the wedding, the party would be a surprise.
Post # 5
planning one brides Bach party for the night after another bride’s wedding sounds horrendous. I’d dislike the idea as the bachelorette AND I’d dislike the idea as the bride of that day because everybody would be using up tons of their energy and fun on the other event. Just seems beyond weird. If your gf really wants a Bach party, she needs to be there for some other night that isn’t already booked with another major event.
Post # 6
I highly suggest not planning it at all that weekend.
If she really would like one, then let her plan another weekend. If you guys do it the night before, as a bride I know I’d be pissed if my wedding party was looking all haggared, lack of sleep, hungover, or tired the next day and I’d be upset if they all left early to go to another party.
Sorry, that’s just bad timing and it should be another weekend.
Post # 7
could you do bachelorate party after her shower on sunday?> i would avoid saturday night.