- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I fear I’m getting too caught up in the planning and having a bridezilla moment, so I thought I’d pop in here and ask for your opinions. This is kind of long-winded, so I apologize in advance.
We got engaged around the same time as another couple-friend of ours. We sent out Save-The-Dates almost immediately since we’d actually been planning prior to making the engagement official. The other couple was planning their wedding for a few months after ours, but then had to move the date as key family members couldn’t make it. So everyone received a note saying that their wedding had finally be rescheduled and was now going to be a destination wedding a month prior to our wedding, and they were going to have a local reception the weekend before our wedding.
I’ll be honest – this ticked me off at first, since they didn’t bother to let us know in advance or just confirm that we weren’t planning an event the weekend before since there is a lot of overlap in our guests. But I did eventually brush it off.
Without giving a play-by-play, over the course of one day last week, I (and other guests) received numerous emails from the other bride’s Maid/Matron of Honor (who’s a good friend of mine) about various events that are being scheduled for her. These events, plus the travelling to and from this friend’s wedding are literally taking up every weekend in July, August, and the beginning of September. The only exception being one weekend which I had specifically asked her to keep clear as it is a milestone birthday for me and I was planning a party.
Because of the completely booked up schedule, the only option that we have for a bachelorette is on one of the “travel weekends” around my friend’s wedding (I won’t be attending the destination wedding). This will mean that people attending her wedding won’t be able to make it to my bachelorette, but since we had no other options I figured that would be fine .. wedding does trump bachelorette. But when I mentioned the tentative date to a friend who’s invited to both weddings, she (mistakenly) suggested that I was scheduling my bachelorette on the same day as my friend’s wedding. I corrected her, and explained the scheduling issue.
But now I’m worried that other people will think I’m being a jerk for scheduling this party then. And then there’s the other side of me that’s saying my friend and her Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t stop to consider that I may want to have a weekend to celebrate too before booking multiple parties and various group trips, so I should just not care what they think.
Am I overanalysing? Am I being petty? Do I just need to go ahead and have the party while they’re away, and if that means most of my girlfriends won’t be there, then so be it?
Can someone please knock some sense into me! 🙂