(Closed) Bachelorette party this weekend… advice needed

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I probably would have posted something like, “The bachelorette party will be awesome.  Can’t wait to see you Saturday!!”  But I have no problem needling people who clearly are trying to get a rise out of me.

And for the record, what a bitch.

Post # 4
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry you’re going through this. You sound like a lovely person and she obviously has insecurity issues.

My best advice is this; I find that we are often the most hurt by people when we have expectations of them that they do not meet, and then we are dissapointed. Often the best course of action is to be realistic about your expectations, and then hopefully be pleasantly surprised if/when they exceed them.

Your sister sounds like she’s going through a selfish phase, so to expect that she will be excited about your wedding activities, especially when she has expressed resentment towards you, is setting yourself up for dissapointment. 

I know it’s not great advice about getting your sister involved/excited, but it will hopefully help a bit with the dissapointment side of things….

Post # 6
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry 🙁 it sucks to feel like your family is not being as supportive as you wish they would be/as they should be. I agree with PP, that she is going through a selfish or insecure phase of her life. She already feels inadequate in a normal situation, so she probably just mentally and emotionally couldn’t handle a time when you are even MORE in the limelight, if that makes sense? She might be avoiding it just to avoid making a scene… which would, in my opinion, be far worse and far more upsetting than her not going. Of course, there is a tactful way to not come, and there is an immature way to post passive aggressive facebook statuses. She’s probably just trying to figure out how to keep a distance without confronting all of the emotional issues surrounding your relationship. Let the bachelorette party thing go… and then try to sit one on one with her another time and really try to understand her POV.. let her vent… because even though you never tried to be better than her, in her eyes, that’s how it is. Perception is reality, and to start healing she needs to understand and believe that her perception of you is not what you intended to project.  Good luck!!!!!

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