Post # 1
So first of all, nobody actually RSVP’d (those are my friend for ya!) So I, the bride, tracked down everyone to ask if they were going. Got answers from everyone. Then Maid/Matron of Honor tells me she was going to tell everyone to buy their ticket for the boat cruise we are going on when they called to RSVP. She’s on vacation, so I was debating whether to send an email myself, but talked to a Bridesmaid or Best Man and we decided not to, so we wouldn’t step on toes. Well I told one Bridesmaid or Best Man yesterday to buy a ticket, but now the cruise is completely sold out. So now I have to tell everyone that we aren’t doing the cruise. No reservations are made for dinner yet. No plans except “to go out” after dinner.
I looked for hotels to stay at that night and couldn’t find anything under $200 (a bunch of events going on that weekend apparently) so now everyone is staying at my place since its most convienent. Which means I need to clean, get things ready for everyone to stay over, and stock up on some food for everyone. Should I really be doing all of this for my bachelorette party??? This is stressing me out more than the wedding right now! Am I being unreasonably upset?
Post # 3
I think that you have every right to be upset. The bachelorette party is the responsibility of the bridesmaids. I mean I guess one is not required, but I don’t know any of my friends who haven’t had one.
Could you have a conversation with your Maid/Matron of Honor and tell her how you feel?
Post # 4
Hopefully when your Maid/Matron of Honor comes back from vacation she will have more time to help. if you do have everyone stay at your house I would talk to your Maid/Matron of Honor about your concerns-spending time cleaning, getting ready, buying food. Maybe she and or the bidesmaids will pitch in. Buy some pizzas and breakfast food, and some cocktails of course 🙂
Post # 5
@mkewed2010:Having them there is the blessing. I arranged most of my bacheloretter party and in the end it was AWESOME because all the important people were there.
Post # 6
I guess the problem is that my Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t really friends with my other BMS and nobody wants to step on her toes or make her upset if they step in and plan things. I just don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings. I don’t want to make dinner reservations, even though we know where we want to go, because I don’t want to feel like I’m taking the planning away from her. Ugh…i dunno.
Post # 7
If it makes you feel better I have to plan my own bachelorette party too =( and It’s just a terrible reminder I have no close friends.
Post # 8
My bachelorette party was a disaster. Two of my BMs were supposed to be working on it, but they let another friend take it over (even though I told them not to because she’s notoriously flakey). Guess what happened? The girl that flakes out flaked out and the whole thing went to pot, only no one picked up the pieces! About two days before the party I figured it out, told my sister (MOH) and she took over and sorted it out last minute. Since it was so last minute, most of my other friends who I wanted invited weren’t able to come. It sucked. Not the party itself (well the party wasn’t spectacular, but I enjoyed the time with my girls), but the way it made me feel, so I get where you’re coming from. It made me feel like no one gave a crap about me, our friendship, this big change in my life, nothing.
Like the PPs said, talk to your Maid/Matron of Honor about it. It’ll work out in the end. I mean, when it boils down to it, it’s supposed to be a fun time for you and your girls, so just stay focussed on that.
Post # 9
Ugh – that really sucks! I’m sure you guys will have a great time, but it’s too bad that you are having to put in so much work.
We’re supposed to be renting a cabin for a weekend sometime in August but I don’t think my Maid/Matron of Honor is organizing it very well. I’m afraid it may just fall through.