Post # 1
OK, to start with, a couple days ago my FI informed me that his GM are adament about having a stripper at his bachelor party. I thought about it for on quitmoment and said that it’s ok because I trust him not to do anything bad (and I really do!) so I wanted to put him at ease that it’s fine. I know that the stripper is mostly for the other guys anyways, and he’s choosing me to marry so no reason to freak.
Ok, with that said, yesterday I told him that my MOH told me that the BMs and she had decided the bacheloette party would be in my old home town where one of them live and where it would be an hour drive for one girl and a two hour drive for two of us. I was ok with this because there’s a lot to do there (bigger city) and therefore more fun. Well I told him and he FREAKS OUT yelling and asking why we weren’t doing it where we live (which would actually be closer for most everyone so i understand that) but he acts like I’m planning the whole thing and chose to be further away and continues yelling at me saying it’s a stupid idea to have it there, continually asking me why even though I told him I’m not planning it!!!
I was just really upset about this because I felt I was being really thoughtful when it comes to his party but he seems to not want me to be two hours away potentially drinking (although at least two underaged girls will be there so no barhopping will happen). I just don’t know what he’s so upset about.
I’m so close to telling him that I change my mind and that his is forbidden to have a stripper, because i have a feeling he will try to make me feel bad about my party to the point where i won’t enjoy myself, so why should he get to enjoy himself??
sorry for the vent…. fyi he is normally a really sweet caring guy and it just surprised me that he would freak like that.
Post # 3
Oh wow, strange. Can you try talking to him when he calms down and figure out what is so upsetting to him about this? I’m the MOH in a wedding coming up and we’re taking the bride to NYC for her bachelorette party, a good four hours away. The groom’s boys are taking him to Chicago, a good day+ trip, and no one seems to be upset about that. I just don’t understand why your FI is upset. I think you need to get to the bottom of his concerns to see if they are truly valid or not.
Post # 4
Why would he be so mad that it’s a few hours away? I don’t understand why that would be an issue. It’s not like he has to go. Is he just trying to be controling?
Post # 5
Is there some underlying cause for him freaking out like that? Big deal you are going out of town, you aren’t getting a stripper yourself or anything.
Post # 6
That’s weird.. my fiance and I are both having out of town bachelore/ette parties. Maybe you should explaing to him that this isn’t up to him to decide… it’s YOUR last night out as a single woman, not his 🙂
Post # 7
I think he’s worried that you wont be able to make it home because you will be drinking. My man doesnt like it when I drink and drive either no matter how far I have to drive. Ask him why he is so upset about it and if its because of that then tell him you will keep it to one drink an hour and you will eat like a pig! My FI is having his bachelor party first and his brothers loves strippers so I told him he can have one but no private strippers! Just strip clubs! His brothers are party animals so I told him if he doesnt come home that night not to expect me to come home on my night, haha, fair and square
Post # 8
Yeah I know, I think he is just really protective of me. He always hates it when I leave town without him. He thinks i’ll get in a crash or something.
But he did have a REALLY long day that day and was super tired.
I’ll try talking to him about it tonight. 🙁
Post # 9
That’s really bizarre. My fiance and I live in Pittsburgh. His bachelor party is going to be up near Niagara Falls, and my bachelorette will be in DC (where one of my bridesmaids lives). Both will be for basically the whole weekend. Could your fiance be worried about someone possibly driving home drunk and getting hurt?
Post # 10
I even told him we were going to get a limo for the whole night and a hotel close by. And we have younger girls who can’t get into the bars so I don’t know what he’s worried about. It could just be the drinking without him nearby to take care of me or something, but i’m a big girl, you know? lol thanks for all your responses, glad i’m not the only one who thinks it’s weird!