Post # 1
Maybe this has been asked before…probably. Can someone please explain to me if I am wrong…
So a bridal shower is usually where the bridesmaids come, friends, mothers, grand mothers, etc…right?
Well, according to a few of my friends and my mom, usually you get gifts that are like household “wifely” gifts…(gag…that sounds so domesticated) but like a sewing machine, cook books, cute aprons and such…then bachelorette parties are where you good girl friends come, have a good night out (or in) and they give gifts like lingerie.
My Maid/Matron of Honor seems to think that my explanation of it is WAY off. But to be honest I really don’t want to open some sex outfit in front of my elderly (VERY conservitive and catholic) grandma. I just don’t.
One of my co-workers had a bridal shower and everyone brought completely raunchy gifts (like sex toys and such)…my grand mother would be so displeased (along with my mom) and I really don’t want that type of bridal shower anyway.
Let’s hear your opinions!
Post # 3
Your maid of honor is incorrect. The bridal shower is the more tame of the two, and yes, that is where you get the “domestic” gifts. The bachelorette party is for the other stuff because moms and grandmas don’t typically attend those.
Post # 4
Bridal shower doesn’t have to be “wifey” as you put it presents, it can be whatever you registered for. The bridal shower is usually family, your bridal party for women and friends who “shower you” with gifts.
The bach party is usually you and your bridal party and girl friends celebrating getting married, this is ususally where the ranchy gifts should come in.
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of gifts being opened at a bachelorette. It’s more about just going out and having a good time with your besties.
Some bridal showers are “lingerie showers” and some are for the domestic gifts. It all depends on the type shower you/your Maid/Matron of Honor want.
Post # 6
You’re right. Bridal showers are for all the “home goods” (basically whatever is on your registry) and the bachelorette party is for the younger crowd to go out and get wild! Definitely not a grandma affair. Typically you don’t even need to bring gifts to the bachelorette party, but if you do, it’s strictly sex-y type stuff, lingerie, sex toys, whatever. What did your Maid/Matron of Honor think it was for?
Post # 7
Sorry for my typo’s I was typing fast.
Whew, okay–that’s what I thought too…I’ve only attended a couple and some I thought were nice and classy while others…were really uncomfortable.
My maid of honor thinks that bridal parties are strictly for lingerie and “sexy” things. She also said that my grandma should know this so she will expect it or will have to deal with it (she was quite rude about it too…she has never met my grandma so really doesn’t get what I’m saying…)
Maybe I will just have both? Still…getting lingerie from my future mother in law makes me want to vomit. She has said she’s already picked out some things…yikes
Post # 8
I think most people have both. I’ve been to lingerie showers that were part of the bachelorette party, but only close friends were invited. (The typical bachelorette party festivities followed, but it doubled as a showes so the friends wouldn’t have to travel twice.)
As others have said, normally a shower is more domestic, but it depends on the audience. If your Maid/Matron of Honor wants to throw a lingerie shower, that’s up to her. Just ask that she not invite people you’d be uncomfortable seeing you open it. The thing with a shower is, everything is technically up to the person throwing it (though they should seek your input on the guest list.) So, if she wants to throw a lingerie party, she can. You can tell her you’d rather not have one, but you can’t insist that it be more tame.
That said, your aunt/mother/family friend can throw an additional shower.
Many brides have multiple showers AND a bachelorette party. But it just depends on who offers to throw you parties!
Post # 9
@Heatherloveskenny: My advice is to give her one of the many books or blogs for planning a wedding and show her what is written about bridal showers. Hopefully seeing it in written form will get her off your back! I had to show my mom actual photos of women wearing colored shoes before she believed that it wasn’t some crazy weird idea.