Post # 1
Hi ladies! FI and I were talking about bachelor/bachelorette parties last night. He wants to do the stereotypcial strip clubs for the guys and lingerie shower/penis straws for the girls and then all meet up and finish the night out together.
That’s all fine & good (except no penis straws and blinky tiaras for this bride)… except that I don’t have many girlfriends in the area. Of the 2 that I have, 1 will be about 7 months preggers. So that leaves me with 1 friend and my sister, if she will make the 12 hour drive. The other BMs are FI’s sister, FI’s friend, and my SIL who lives across the country. So that means I will have 2 of my friends, 2 of FI’s friends/family and probably FMIL and FI’s aunts, which I think is just weird but I know they’ll show up. Basically I feel totally lame having a guest list of 2 people, when FI has a group of about 20 guys that he wants to invite.
What would you do? How do you have a fun party when you don’t have many girlfriends? Can I just tell him I don’t want a bachelorette party?
Post # 3
My friends are also spread out all over the country. I am planning on doing the shower/party a couple of nights before the wedding so everyone can be there and they don’t have to travel twice. I am also hoping that it will encourage the girls to show up a few days early = more last minute help 🙂
Post # 4
My FI and I decided on a joint wine tour bachelor/bachelorette party w/party bus. It’s fun for everyone, then everyone comes back to our place for food and a bonfire. We’re all going to camp in the backyard too so nobody drinks and drives!
Post # 5
I didn’t want a b’ette party to begin with. But I also only have like one or two friends in the area so even if someone brough it up, I would have just said I didn’t want to have one, but thanks.
This is really up to you, though. Do you want a b’ette party? Just because your FI is having one doesn’t mean you have to. I tend to find bachelor and b’ette parties are kind of for everyone else but the bride and groom anyway 🙂 Instead, you could always book a spa day just for yourself while your FI is away. Get a massage or mani/pedi, rent some girlie movies, get your fav snack and call it a “me” night.
If you want a party, e-mail your friends, near and far, and get a feeling for their likelihood of traveling for the party. You never know! Some girls are really into it, and you all could always make it a weekend thing, not just one day.
Post # 6
I’m also doing a girl’s night 2 nights before the wedding so that far flung friends/family will be able to attend. If you want to do something well in advance, maybe do a spa evening with your 2 close friends (this way the pregnant one can join in too).
You don’t HAVE to meet up with your man. BUT if you WANT to meet up at the bar with your man and his friends, I say just do it. Bring your 1 friend and any of the family members who would be fun to hang with. It’s not always a bad thing to be outnumbered by men! 🙂 You & your girlfriend can certainly be the center of attention with the guys taking care of you!
Conversely, if that makes you feel awkward, what about the guys who are attending the bachelor party? Do they have wives/girlfriends who could join in the meet-up portion of the evening?
Post # 7
I don’t want a bachelorette party where you go out and party. We’ve just had a slew of weddings and I attended all their parties/showers and I’m just not feeling it any more. So I told my girls that I would rather have them spend the night with me the Friday before the wedding and the Saturday morning we get up have brunch and enjoy the morning being pampared. I reserved the pimped-out suite at the hotel that has 3 bedrooms and living room with spa in the room. I would normally not rent such a fancy place but I figure since we aren’t spending the money at a night club or on a limo/bus then why not spend it on a nice hotel room?!
Post # 8
Like Teddy Bears, my FI had his a couple days before the wedding since his friends were more spread out than mine. That could be an option.
Post # 9
i’m kind of in the same boat you are @Apple. FI has about 20 guy friends.. i on the other hand have about 3 close girlfriends/ BMs (one who lives in california and prob won’t fly in for my “bachelorette”), and my FSIL. I would want to all meet up at the end of the night with my FI and the guys but had the same reservations that you do because there will be about 4 of us.
But honestly, i think we will still go out / have dinner and meet up with them anyway! yep, my huge bachelorette party of 4.. maybe 5.! it will be CRAZY!!! 🙂 Have fun with the girls you are with and don’t worry too much about the numbers
Post # 10
Thanks ladies! @krissybee that is a great attitude. I think I will do that, go enjoy the company of the girls and then meet up with the guys. WILD!! 😀
Post # 11
@Appleblossom I think it is so cute your fiance wants to share this event with you. You can still have a lot of fun with just one or two friends! You could make a day out if it: get nails done or other spa/beauty treatment in the daytime, then go for a fun dinner with lots of girly drinks. Doesn’t have to be a big group; just treat yourself to something special you really love. Some people even invite their mom or other female relatives for that type of party. Your pregnant friend could totally go to all that. Then you and the other girlfriend that will be with you can go meet up with your fiance at the end. By that time it will probably be such a crazy party for the guys that it won’t matter if it’s just the two of you girl. Also you could tell the guys to have their own girlfriends/dates show up at the bar at a certain time.
Post # 12
I just had my bachelorette this past weekend. There were 6 of us and it was really fun. We went out for dinner and then dancing and all stayed at a hotel. The next day, 4 of us went to disney world. It works just fine with fewer people.