Bachelorette party - where to draw the line?

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Bachelorette party - where to draw the line?

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aed23 May 22, 2010

My bach is coming up in April and I'm trying to figure out who/how many to invite. I have a list of 9 BMs and close friends. I'm debating on a few others.

I'd like to invite a couple cousins that are closeby, but then do I need to invite the other cousins that are farther? I don't want anyone to be hurt they weren't invited, but yet I also don't want anyone to feel obligated to travel.

The other question is my older step-sister. We are pretty close, but she has 2 small kids and I've never partied with her ever. I think it would be awkward for her to be there, and I don't think she expects an invite (she'll come to the shower). But I also don't want to offend her since we're close.

Is there any rule on where to cut off?

2 years ago

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riley jane May 2011 Virginia

I think it kind of depends on what you are planning on doing. If you are going on a trip or overnight of somekind, I would limit it to the bridesmaids and a couple close friends. If it is an in-town dinner/night out, I think you are free to invite more.

If you are close to the cousins that live nearby, I would invite them. If you are not as close to the others, I wouldn't feel obligated to include them. Also, maybe you should ask your step-sister if she'd like to come. Could you say that you would love to have her but understand if she needs to stay with her kids andchooses to celebrate at the shower instead?

The bottom line is, I would include everyone you want to be there. It is your celebration!

2 years ago

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Sulli301 June 26, 2010 Michigan

I agre with @riley

I am inviting about 10-15 people for mine. I won't exclude any close friends but I am not feeling obligated to invite every girl who is coming to my wedding!

I also agree that is it is a small overnight get away that may get pricy, limit it to the closest, smallest number you can!

Any idea what you want to do for it?

2 years ago

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GirlWithARing September 5, 2010 Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

I don't think there's any rule, so the best solution might be to just talk to the girls you're on the fence about. For the cousins who live far away, you can say "I'd love it if you came, but I don't expect you to travel by any means if it's inconvenient." For your stepsister, you can say, "I'd love for you to come, but if you're not very excited about barhopping/partying/etc, I understand and we can celebrate together at my shower." Honestly if you don't mind having them, the easiest thing is just to ask them rather than try to figure out what they would want.

2 years ago