(Closed) bachelorette party– who pays?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

Yes, the guests should pay for their own tickets and the brides ticket/food/drinks should be split by the MOH and bridesmaids.  An amusement park day sounds like so much fun!

Post # 4
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Newbee

Yes. I had an amazingly fun bachelorete party that included non-BM’s and they all paid their way. However, I don’t know the proper etiquette. You might want to bring along some extra cash just in case you have to end up covering for someone.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Yes. The only person who should not pay for herself is the bride, and everyone else in attendance is expected to chip in for her and cover themselves

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Dreams Cancun Resort & Spa

Someone just called me today to ask about proper ediquette when it comes to these things.  She was forced to chip in for the bill for a bridal shower (not bachelorette party) that the bridesmaid’s threw at a restaurant.  So on top of her bridal shower gift, she had to fork over another $50 on top of that for dinner.  Not only that~ but they weren’t told a head of time.  Was this right?

I always thought ppl chipped in for barchlorette parties since there is usually some sort of planned activity and they would be told the cost ahead of time~ but bridesmaids shouldered the costs for bridal showers. Is this correct? 

 

I’ve never been to a bachorlette party or a bridal shower…. Who gets invited to these?  I would assume only close friends for the bachlorette party, but what about the bridal shower?

  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2007

WHAT?? unheard of that you would have to pay. RIDICULOUS.

Post # 9
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Newbee

the bridal party should pay for the bridal shower, period. 

i think it’s a nice gesture if the bridal party pays for the bachelorette party, but it’s not absolutely necessary.  still, you should let the invited guests know how much the entrance fee is as a courtesy.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

yup. we had everyone chip in for the hotel, dinner, and cover for the club for my best friend’s bachelorette party and no one was upset. i think they pretty much expected it [we refused the bride’s money]. as far as everything else: prizes and the leis we wore that night and favors was taken cared of by the hostess, one of the other bridesmaids.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

The bridal shower is usually always hosted by the bridesmaids.  The mothers may want to pitch in and help, but otherwise, other guests should not be expected to pay for anything for the bridal shower. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i agree. the bridal party should host the bridal shower, with help from the mom’s. the bridal shower guests should NOT have to pay for anything, except their gift.

the bridal party should also host the bach party and pay for the bride’s expenses. the guests for the bach party should pay for their own needs, whether you go to a club, hotel, dinner, etc.

i actually have a friend who is a BM in a wedding. and the bride is insisting that her bridal shower guests pay $25 each to attend her shower in addition to bringing a gift. which i think is ridiculous!! 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

My bachelorette party was a weekend in Vegas, and we all paid our own way. Even me. Especially me, since I was the one who wanted the weekend in Vegas to begin with! I think my girls may have bought me drinks for one of the events, but that was about it. I would never have asked one person to pay for everything, or even for the whole bridal party to foot the bill. It was an expensive undertaking!

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