Post # 1
So my g-friends are throwing me a bachelorette party (it’s an overnighter about an hour away from home) and i intend on inviting all the girls (not moms) that are invited to the wedding…but…
1 – do i have to invite all the girls coming to the wedding or can i just invite the ones i’m closest to. it’s a small wedding (about 60 guests) so it might come up who was invited and who wasnt invited to the party.
2 – i have a large group of friends i play sports with who we can’t invite to the wedding – people i spend a lot of time with but just can’t invite b/c of budget. can i invite them to the bachelorette party or is that totally rude since i didn’t invite them to the wedding.
I’m having some major issues on this one. i REALLY don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Post # 3
usually i think you just invite the bridal party and a few more people you are close to, there is no way to invite everyone who you are inviting to the wedding.
Post # 4
I think it would be best if you didn’t invite the people who aren’t invited to the wedding. I think I would be offended if i was good enough to come to the bachelorette party but not the wedding. Now this would not necessarily apply to every situation.
Do your team mates know that your wedding is so small? I think that if I only had 60 people that would basically cover just my family.. is that true for you? Is your guest list primarily family? If you tell them that your wedding is family only but you would love for them to go out with you it might just work out for you.
I hope that didn’t come off as judgemental.. I definitely think you have a hard decision to make. It will really depend on what kind of relationship you have with the girls that aren’t invited.
Post # 5
sorry mustve skipped over the part where you said you wanted to invite people who aren’t invited to the wedding, i think that you probably shouldn’t do that because more then likely they will be offended not being invited to the wedding.
Post # 6
You definitely don’t have to invite every female on your wedding guest list! Invite those that are younger, and more into the scene you’ll be in. Usually it consists of girls you are closest with, or go out with often.
Etiquette says you can invite girls that aren’t invited to the wedding. However, from a personal standpoint, that’s your call. If someone knows they’re not invited to the wedding, but has still expressed interest in celebrating your "last night out," then I don’t se a problem. (i.e. a coworker, etc.)
Post # 7
I am inviting the bridal party and my closest girlfriends and a few cousins – about 20 or so people. I don’t think you need to invite every female coming to your wedding. I don’t think that you should necessarily invite your sports friends unless they know and understand they are not invited to your wedding.
Post # 8
Definitely only invites your closest girls!
I can’t imagine a wedding guest that is not as close to you being offended she didn’t get invited. I’m having my bridal party and a few friends, but it will only be 10-12 people and I’m happy with that number. You shoud invite however many friends your’e comfortable with and only those you want to share the night with!
Post # 9
I normally would agree with the rest of the gals on this one and say to invite the women you are close to who are invited to the wedding BUT I recently went to a bachelorette party where there were some women who were not invited to the wedding who came out to have a great time. So it isn’t horrible to extend an invite to friends who aren’t invited. I think it really is a matter of personal preference and how close you are with the other women. But I don’t think you should deny them if they want to come out and party.
Post # 10
I say don’t formally invite non-wedding guest girls, but as it gets closer you could mention it like oh hey my bachelorette party is this weekend, if you’re around, you should stop by!
As for inviting all female guests definitely don’t do that. I invited all "friends" – anyone would I would normally want to go out with for a night out. Not significant others of my guy friends unless I was close to them- which I’m not, for the most part. I had a hard time trying to decide which of the ladies (wives, fi’s, gfs) of my fiance’s friends to invite because we hang out with all of them on a regular basis, but many of them don’t feel like "my friends." All along I was pretty sure I wasn’t going to invite them but when it came down to it, I really wanted two of them to be invited (bc I’m closer to them) but didn’t feel I could invite them without inviting all of them. I probably could have but didn’t want to cause ANY hard feelings, so I extended the invite to all of them. As it turns out, none of them are going (which is great by me) EXCEPT the two I wanted to! So it worked out perfectly!